A question for Muslims who feel they need to conform to perceived expectations

[Reha]

Re: A question for Muslims who feel they need to conform to perceived expectations

@queen_24

Of course RG, I read it thoroughly and I am sure I haven’t offended you. My comments here are not to corner anyone here, these are just based on my personal observations. I agree to your last line but this doesn’t happen every time.

That’t the point deeba. Why don’t they think they can enjoy our festive and what makes us think we enjoy their festive?? And ok, if we think, it’s because they don’t find interest in it, what do we do to make them feel interested in our religion?? Our festive? We might take part in their festive taking this as a custom thing, or proving ourselves as open-minded towards them as RG mentioned but sometimes it can turn the table… they can treat it as our Kamzor Iman, (while it isn’t), they might think, oh these Muslims, they can celebrate anything. When a large Non-Muslim community can be stiff about NOT celebrating our occasions, why shall We?? Why don’t they worry about proving themselves as very welcoming and open-minded community?? Why don’t they care? Why don’t they even enjoy?

I don’t mean to corner you queen but if you think participating is Gunaah…you should cancel the makeup bookings because you’re aiding in that Gunaah. Its like helping to cook a pork roast but not eating it.

AND one more thing - ALL of us Muslims have a RESPONSIBILITY in Islam. Not just the Muslims that were raised in the West. Apki zimmidari bhi hai apna Imaan phaylana. The people that I know of who have a good impression of Muslims…someone gave it to them. Kisi aur ne apni zimmidari samaj ke vo beej boya hai. Vo hi zimmidari apki aur meri hai. Matlab - they will care if you become friendly with them. Invite them. Treat them like human being that Allah swt also created…your Creator also created your fellow human beings. They are not na-paak or najis. If they treated you this way, you would not be living in the UK.

@Muzna

Reha,

I don’t think that some folks can be brought out from the “us vs them” mentality. (I’m referring to the Muslims vs Non-Muslims.)
People like you and I don’t see it as “us vs them”. We don’t see it as a competition or a challenge.

That’s the thing…I guess I should be grateful I don’t feel that way.