A question for Muslims who feel they need to conform to perceived expectations

[queen_24]

Re: A question for Muslims who feel they need to conform to perceived expectations

@khattichic

There is a South African girl that lives in my neighborhood (Caucasion, Christian) who grew up in a predominantly Muslim area of Johanassberg. Every Ramadan she comes to our Masjid for community Iftar, dressed in a shalwar kameez with her hair covered. She brings her husband and sons. Every single weekend. Friday-Sunday. I’ve been seeing this for 3-4 years now. She comes to Eid Namaz and even pays into the Ramadan fund each family of our Masjid pitches in for to pay for the festivities and Eid Carnival. Why, you ask? Because she grew up in a Muslim area an adopted certain customs. And would you like to know how our Muslim sisters (all Indo/Pak by the way) treat her? They completely ignored her at first. And then when they slowly started “accepting” her into the fold, a select few started snickering and spreading rumors about how we shouldn’t be too friendly to her because she is probably a mole/spy for the FBI out to harm us.

Yes, this is a true story. We love to point out how no one accepts or understands our taur/tareeqay, but when someones does we cast doubt on them. So classy.

It’s so sad how narrow minded we Muslims can be. Why is assimilation, in a cultural, not religious sense, perceived as a threat?

And for the posters who keep seeing you don’t see large groups of Christians/Westerners celebrating with Muslims..who cares? Does everything have to be a tit for tat?

There is no doubt about why I called us, Sakhi, in previous post. Of course not everything has to be a tit for tat.