A question for Muslims who feel they need to conform to perceived expectations

diwana · December 1, 2013, 11:56pm

Re: A question for Muslims who feel they need to conform to perceived expectations

Diwanoo,
My non-muslim friends do not fast with me, they do not attend the mosque with me, they do not involve themselves in my prayers. They do come for Eid meals, with a gift and a host of well wishes.

At Christmas, I do not attend their mass or other church services. I do not attend nativity programmes, I do not go carol singing. I do give a gift, and have in the past had dinner with them, on that specific date because that specific date is the date that matters to them the same way as the date of Eid matters to me. This is called a bond, it is called mutual respect.

The only reason I offer you this personal angle is to illustrate that every person’s approach is their own and you, with all due respect, are no one to tell us what boundaries we can or cannot cross.

If you cannot see the cultural angles of the religious occasions then that is your purview. I have no desire to sit here and dissect the religious connotations of snowmen, roast chicken, and crackers.

You have your opinion, fine, but do not claim to be without bias. Do not claim to have looked at it from all angles. Do not claim to be open to other people’s answers and then dismiss those very answers by taking taking refuge in semantics and argumentativeness.

I get it, you think the symbolism of those occasions is too strong and people are sheep, fine. But do spare us things like your example in post 109, which effectively compares casual sex with a person’s faith. It is distasteful. For that I am somewhat disappointed in you

The thread is getting rather tedious.

It really does not matter if non-Muslims give gifts or offer host of well wishes on Eid day, including those events arranged by politicians arranging Muslim Iftar in Ramadan. What good has this ever brought to Mslims at large? Seriously!

It should really not matter for Muslims if someone actually converts/reverts or whatever to Islam from being Non-Muslim.
(Please read it very carefully again) Why? If someone converts to Islam, that is his/her personal act.

People need to be true to their hearts and a lot of Non-Muslims communities including Jews, Buddhas, Hindus, Sikhs even Christians do not approves or follow Christmas as a religious holiday.

Some Muslims without thinking, and just to remove their own anxieties, fear or false impression of being somehow considered outcast act against their self proclaimed beliefs.

Sorry to disappoint you, but the question was very much in par with the position some posters stated that it really does not make any difference to their faiths even if they act outside their faith, just to feel good or have fun.

No valid reason so far has been provided from minority of these Muslims to justify acting against their beliefs.

Even though I was very carefully selective in my questions to a very selective group of Muslims who find it fun to participate in activities against their beliefs, if anyone has problem with it then the questions can be directed to people of any religion or holding any religious beliefs **who feel they need to partake in religious activities of people who do not belong to their OWN religions and are living in a country or at a place where majority people follow different religion or beliefs. **

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