I heard a woman critising other married women. She was saying how alot of married women look messy at home with ripped clothes, bad hair and no makeup and outside they transform completely. She said that they need to look nice for husbands not everyone else besides their husbands.
My question is that do you try to look nice at home or not ? and why?
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I heard a woman critising other married women. She was saying how alot of married women look messy at home with ripped clothes, bad hair and no makeup and outside they transform completely. She said that they need to look nice for husbands not everyone else besides their husbands. My question is that do you try to look nice at home or not ? and why?
Every once in a while I do. My husband doesn't seem to mind if I don't though. He says he'd rather I'd be comfortable, so pyjamas-all-day it is! (At least on weekends ;P)
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I wear very comfy PJ at home, but they are nice and i get new pairs often. But i only dress up for and have makeup on when we are going on a dawat or something. I just don't have the time and engery to keep that around the house. I know my husband and i know he doesnt care about looks.
Every guy is different, so if you know that your husband would like you to stay dressed up and dolled up...thn the wife should do it.
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I wear very comfy PJ at home, but they are nice and i get new pairs often. But i only dress up for and have makeup on when we are going on a dawat or something. I just don't have the time and engery to keep that around the house. I know my husband and i know he doesnt care about looks.
Every guy is different, so if you know that your husband would like you to stay dressed up and dolled up...thn the wife should do it.
Don't you think its wierd wearing makeup at home? I have seen some women who do it but i just can't imagine doing it myself.
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I wear very comfy PJ at home, but they are nice and i get new pairs often. But i only dress up for and have makeup on when we are going on a dawat or something. I just don't have the time and engery to keep that around the house. I know my husband and i know he doesnt care about looks.
Every guy is different, so if you know that your husband would like you to stay dressed up and dolled up...thn the wife should do it.
I dont think theres any husband who wouldnt appreciate seeing his wife adorned and beautified just for him. I also think ladies should beautify themselves for their husbands rather than the whole world. I'll try my best to do that insha Allah.
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I dont think theres any husband who wouldnt appreciate seeing his wife adorned and beautified just for him. I also think ladies should beautify themselves for their husbands rather than the whole world. I'll try my best to do that insha Allah.
lol that's exactly how I used to think and yea it makes a lot of sense (in theory). It's pretty important to be dressing up for your husband everyday, but it gets hard when you're both working full time and by the time you both get done with work/gym/shopping/cooking, you're both too drained to want to do much of anything except spend time with each other. Donning fancy kameez shalwar and wearing makeup, etc. is way too much work and quite time consuming. I tried that, and barely lasted a month before I gave up. Like rabia, I wear nice nightdresses/PJs and make sure I smell nice. Works like a charm :)
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My husband thinks I look nice in no makeup, pajama pants and his t-shirt! So that’s what I’ll wear 
Btw, married women criticizing other married women/moms criticizing other moms is just really annoying. Apne kaam se kaam rakho, life will be much easier.
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Don't you think its wierd wearing makeup at home? I have seen some women who do it but i just can't imagine doing it myself.
i agree...wearing makeup around the house just isn't practical for me. I wake up before him and out the door before he even wakes up. I get home a little before he gets home...so for me to add makeup before he gets home just isn't possible.
Again i know few of my cosuins husband who like their wives all dolled up all day long...but mine doens't care for such things Alhumdulilah!
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I dont think theres any husband who wouldnt appreciate seeing his wife adorned and beautified just for him. I also think ladies should beautify themselves for their husbands rather than the whole world. I'll try my best to do that insha Allah.
Believe it or not there are some men who don't care for such things. When i get ready, its for myself to feel pretty, and for my husband to see me looking nice...not for the whole world. My husband and i have started this date night/day thing where we go out for a movie and lunch/dinner thing (every 5-6 weeks)...i dress up for that and make sure i look nice for him. BUt the world will see it too...not my problem.
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most husbands, reality check for the unmarried, prefer wives comfortable and faces washed and clean. not decked up in makeup. some husbands are actually astute enough to point out that makeup ruins the skin !
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i probably look horrible at home, and i dont care. my husband finds me attractive no matter how i look so i dont need to get ready to impress him. i have to cook, clean, run errands. i wear only comfy clothes and pjs, no makeup, hair tied up. however, i do take care of myself and my body. i work out regularly, eat well, stay in shape, dress nicely when i go outside
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By the way just to clear things up i'm not critising anyone who looks a certain way, i just wanted to get your opinion. Because i have heard many things like you should always smell and look nice in front of your husband etc. which i personally is impractical especially like one poster said they work and have lots of responsibilities.
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smelling nice and looking nice can be found in simplicity as well. makeup and jewellery is not the only way to deck up. clean fresh faces and comfortable but not crazily uncoordinated "house clothes" (pjs or a simple shalwar kameez or even tee and a shalwar) can look nice too.
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My husband doesn't lime me to wear pjs at home and I myself like to be presentable as well. I wore shalwar kameez at home before I got married so I continue to wear inexpensive cotton shlWR kameez. These are inexpensive but nice.. I wear lipstick and perfume all dY, even if I am alone even blush. I use the long wear lipstick. after fajR I put on lipstick and perfume before waking the kids up. Only thing that's messy is my hair at that point.
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You don't have to smear your face with paint or wear all the gold and diamond since Ur wedding nor will ur husband start hating you if you aren't at your best BUT husbands do notice even if they seem they don't . And if you think he doesn't care then there might be some issue.
I am not judging anyone who has replied in this thread, but when husbands are more frequently physical with their wives, the wives usually make effort at looking good.
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Then what did you do with all those fancy jorays and jewelleries and stuff you got on shadi?? 
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You don't have to smear your face with paint or wear all the gold and diamond since Ur wedding nor will ur husband start hating you if you aren't at your best BUT husbands do notice even if they seem they don't . And if you think he doesn't care then there might be some issue.
I am not judging anyone who has replied in this thread, but when husbands are more frequently physical with their wives, the wives usually make effort at looking good.
Please don't generalize! Like i said, everybody is different and there are some guys who want their wives to dress up and spend time on looking nice. These men also pick out their wives clothes, shoes and make sure they don't wear anything hubbies don't like. BUT my husband isn't like that...hence NOT all men notice or care for these things.
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you wear them on speical/formal dawat.
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You don't have to smear your face with paint or wear all the gold and diamond since Ur wedding nor will ur husband start hating you if you aren't at your best BUT husbands do notice even if they seem they don't . *And if you think he doesn't care then there might be some issue. *
I am not judging anyone who has replied in this thread, but when husbands are more frequently physical with their wives, the wives usually make effort at looking good.
ourat ka kaam hi saj sanwar kar rehna hia.. ager koi bandi effort nahi kar rahi to yaqeenan masla hi hoga...
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Sure husbands notice. Just like anyone would notice dressing up. Have you ever been over or underdressed ata function? Appropriate dressing is appreciated at every place. That's what dress codes are for. Home is supposed to be a place of comfort for all. If a wife is wearing house clothes, you can bet husband isn't lounging in dress pants either. As for more physical, attractions vary for all but general point of notice is that makeup is a big tattle tale and not conducive to spontaneous physical acts at any ttime of day esp in a joint family system. And also beyond reasonable dressing nicely, anyone doing more is either interested in fashion as a hobby (in which case would deck up husband or not) or is insecure about either husband or own looks. A solid marriage doesn't require high maintenance on a daily basis lookswise. Rather it requires more in the vein of emotion, trust, humor, friendship. Those are attractions in a solid happy secure marriage. Just my experience and two cents.