A question for Guppans

Lifestyle Relationships
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i would want to work , but if he minds it , then ok :)

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I am working after marriage. I do most of the cooking, and my husband and I do the household cleaning together.

If/When we have kids, I would like to stay at home with them until they are of school age, at least.

I do sometimes wish I could stay at home and be a housewife because there are a lot of aspects of creating and running a home I wish I could do.

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I'll be starting my job soon insha-allah. and ive worked very hard in my degree too....its not as tough as medicine maybe but its still a hard one: pharmacy.

I wouldnt mind working or not working after marriage....BUT I wouldnt want to get married to a guy who says that I cant work....its a choice given to me by Allah, who is a guy to take away what Allah has given?

having said that....I can do anything to make my fiance happy so not working is something i can easily do for him...

I just dont like the types of guys who like to control their women by saying u cant do this and cant do that....if he gives her the choice....she'd want to do anything to make him happy anyway....at least I would (cant speak for other girls here.)

so yes, even though ive worked so hard for my degree etc....if after marriage my husband would prefer me not to work, i'd do it for his happiness.....if he doesnt mind...but if I feel im not giving him his rights as a husband....by not giving him enough time etc...then i'd probably stop work too....cuz for me family would always be first....let me rephrase that.....for me he'd always be first, followed by my kids...

so to summarise that, if he prefers me not to work, I wouldnt....BUT he is totally ok about it...and doesnt mind at all....says hes with me wotever i decide to do :)

Ex-brigadier thrashes professor over NRO brawl
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^this is exactly the kinda answer i give when im asked about my career plans in the future. It's hard to say until you become a mother...my sisters were hard core career women who swore they would nvr give up their career after having kids....they ended up taking a long break from it to raise their kids....and went back.

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I will work insha'Allah. Again, huge amount of loans and I dont want to forget what I have learned.

With kids, I'd like a house-husband for about three years or so, or we can alternate in that time, insha'Allah.

If nobody agrees to that I guess I will have to stay single but I am finding that quite a few men are willing to be house-husbands for a certain time period.

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O come on Khumar, most of these girls get the degree just to show off on their rishta folio. Beside, education is important regardless whatever you do, stay at home or not.
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Well girls don't go showing off their degrees on folio rather its the parents who do that. I dont see girls pursuing medicine, law and engineering for lending a better rishta instead either they align their career paths as per parents' desire or define it on their own. However, the former senario is rather common/prevalent than the later. Boys are given the freedom to choose their career wehre as girls are dictated reason being their obedience and, to an extent, lack of trust.

Munni household-husband thing is foreign to us. What i mean is that the girls are inherintly inclined towards the decor, interiors and are pretty conscious about the cleaning and all but we aren't that excited. Besides, neither we can milk babies nor we can handle their tantrum.

Ocassional cooking is fun though :)

Cafe' ke subse barey
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I don’t think there is anything wrong with being a housewife.

I’d love to be one. It doesn’t mean your restricted to the kitchen. If my husband earnt enough I would never work, why would I wanna work for? I could learn a language, study further, take art classes, work out sooo many things to do rather than work. LOL

Oh and I love cooking so I think it’d be fun feeding people. There’s nothing derogotary about cooking and cleaning for your hubby, I think it’s so sweet :blush:

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True!

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Your saying that some women work out of necessity. I don't know many men that can't feed their families and provide shelter for them.

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Arshad i think Sara meant that some ppl have very low paid jobs hence y the woman has to work even after she has kids. Or mayb shes a widow and has to earn a crust to get food on the table cos theres no1 else to do it. Theres lots of different senarios.

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I think many women want to work after marriage to keep themselves sane - to sit in d four walls day in day out can make u mad.....i think if and when theres kids involved then i would maybe change hours to part-time...

Work helps you gain security and acts as a back-up for unforeseen circumstances.

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I think i might be only one here who would like to be a house wife after marriage (havent read the other reponses). I dont wana take the stress of work, i would rather live/or try to have a comfy life by being a house wife. If one has enough bling to live a comfy a life, i dont think they would wana work. I would rather stay home and spend time with my offspring, watch them take their first step, say their first word, basically watch them grow through every stage.

But if there are circumstances like being bankrupt, i would surely help my hubby out.

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why are a lot of people equating work with money? it's just not about money. when kids grow up and have their own lives, (pretty much after grade 5), when you clean the house within 2 hours, when you have watched all the dramas on PTV, there isn't much else to be done. that is why i see a lot of older ladies either going back to school, or either going back to work.

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Finally we have someone that is not afraid to be a housewife!:)