Re: A question for Guppans
I'll be starting my job soon insha-allah. and ive worked very hard in my degree too....its not as tough as medicine maybe but its still a hard one: pharmacy.
I wouldnt mind working or not working after marriage....BUT I wouldnt want to get married to a guy who says that I cant work....its a choice given to me by Allah, who is a guy to take away what Allah has given?
having said that....I can do anything to make my fiance happy so not working is something i can easily do for him...
I just dont like the types of guys who like to control their women by saying u cant do this and cant do that....if he gives her the choice....she'd want to do anything to make him happy anyway....at least I would (cant speak for other girls here.)
so yes, even though ive worked so hard for my degree etc....if after marriage my husband would prefer me not to work, i'd do it for his happiness.....if he doesnt mind...but if I feel im not giving him his rights as a husband....by not giving him enough time etc...then i'd probably stop work too....cuz for me family would always be first....let me rephrase that.....for me he'd always be first, followed by my kids...
so to summarise that, if he prefers me not to work, I wouldnt....BUT he is totally ok about it...and doesnt mind at all....says hes with me wotever i decide to do :)