A Pakistani Girl

[Theorist]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

@SID_NY

Please tell me if it doesnt happen with “guyz”… plz.

And also if girls are not the ones who bully fellow girls.

I’v examples where the gang was bullying poor fellow and girls were a part of that group.

Bullying is bad, period. Not that it should be turned into a gender-based discussion

Yeah, except that’s not the topic of the thread! Start a thread and we will discuss all the bad things guys experience.

I also feel sad for guys in desi culture. they are raised like Kings and as soon as they hit 18, they are expected to become a MAN and take over all family responsibility.

Please don’t assume that every pro-woman post means I am against men. You are the one turning this into a gender based discussion.

[SID_NY]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

@Ethan_Hunt

this thread

Yea, thanks PS for opening a can of worms..
@partyslims I’m writing a blog now “A Pakistani munda” and he better post it as well

[Doppleganger]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

Yes, there is a difference between western AND paki girls unless you are living in some pind in UK. Even there the things are changing.

For one, you can get someone locked up if he / she is groping you in the west. In fact, I think that the pendulum has swung wrongly in the women’s direction where they abuse the system in the west.

As for sons being treated like kings, and I can see it in my family with my oldest brother with the reverence he got, it also has to do with the fact that sons traditionally take care of their parents while daughters are parai maal. Of course, those stereotypes are falling away as we speak like my khala actually took care of my grandma in her later years right to her death last month unlike one of my uncles who was just there for the favors.

I don’t know which sick person would be ok with rape of girls (or men tbf) in a decent family, but there are reasons why guys have had an edge over girls.

[Theorist]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

@Doppleganger

Yes, there is a difference between western AND paki girls unless you are living in some pind in UK. Even there the things are changing.

For one, you can get someone locked up if he / she is groping you in the west. In fact,** I think that the pendulum has swung wrongly in the women’s direction where they abuse the system in the west.**

Yes, I feel this is the case as well. Men are losing everything in divorce battles and many women with wrong intentions are using the system to their advantage. Women are capable of evil too if given the opportunity. Never denied that.

As for sons being treated like kings, and I can see it in my family with my oldest brother with the reverence he got, it also has to do with the fact that sons traditionally take care of their parents while daughters are parai maal. Of course,** those stereotypes are falling away as we speak like my khala actually took care of my grandma in her later years right to her death last month unlike one of my uncles who was just there for the favors**.

I don’t know which sick person would be ok with rape of girls (or men tbf) in a decent family, but there are reasons why guys have had an edge over girls.

Yes, they are falling away but not so much in my case, which is probably why the double standards and hypocrisy bother me more than others. I deal with it everyday.. I see it everyday.

[Doppleganger]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

Hmm you are still way serious.

I would laugh in my wife’s face if she took offense to something like that in the future.

[Ess_Emm]

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@Doppleganger

Hmm you are still way serious.

I would laugh in my wife’s face if she took offense to something like that in the future.

Be prepared for many burnt salans and dry nights after that happening.

[Theorist]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

@Doppleganger

Hmm you are still way serious.

I would laugh in my wife’s face if she took offense to something like that in the future.

Yeah, she won’t find it funny if she was raised like me. You won’t find it funny either if you had to spend the rest of your life away from your family with your wife’s entire family. every second. everyday. At some point, it gets very very old.

[IAmRight]

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Oh poor ABCD girls. Subjected to worst of the both east and the west. I feel sad

[Doppleganger]

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@Ess_Emm

Be prepared for many burnt salans and dry nights after that happening.

Like it is kamasutra with them if i allegedly didn’t laugh in their face. women make tons of excuse anyway.

[Theorist]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

@Doppleganger

Like it is kamasutra with them if i allegedly didn’t laugh in their face. women make tons of excuse anyway.

Of all people, her excuses are valid given your attitude.

[Doppleganger]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

No it is not I am king

[Theorist]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

@Doppleganger

No it is not I am king

..and she is the Queen and aap ke hone wale bachon ki maa. :khatti:

[Ess_Emm]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

@Theorist

Of all people, her excuses are valid given your attitude.

Amen sista!

[partyslims]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

@SID_NY

Yea, thanks PS for opening a can of worms..
@partyslims I’m writing a blog now “A Pakistani munda” and he better post it as well

LMAO

I said that there may be some generalizations, but that some things in it are reflective of some Pakistani girls (or of Pakistani origin) have to endure. By painting what may have been a more exaggerated portrait, it does shine a light on some of the double standards. I’m not saying every single girl has had to endure it. Or it may be the case that many girls may just accept things as they are and not care about it. There are many facets to this and everyone has their own unique outlook and life experience. But there can also be a bit of catharsis, when one reads that others may have been through similar situations, and that they are not alone.

[el_topo]

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Also, blog title is A Pakistani Girl, not All Pakistani Girls so there really is no need for the taking up of arms and torches and what not.

[Reha]

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Realistically speaking…I don’t think men are capable of understanding many things a woman deals with.

Its simply not possible and when its not possible…its foolish on our part to expect it.

[Maula_Jatt]

@Theorist:10069608

@""SID_NY""

Please tell me if it doesnt happen with “guyz”… plz.

And also if girls are not the ones who bully fellow girls.

I’v examples where the gang was bullying poor fellow and girls were a part of that group.

Bullying is bad, period. Not that it should be turned into a gender-based discussion

Yeah, except that’s not the topic of the thread! Start a thread and we will discuss all the bad things guys experience.

I also feel sad for guys in desi culture. they are raised like Kings and as soon as they hit 18, they are expected to become a MAN and take over all family responsibility.

Please don’t assume that every pro-woman post means I am against men. You are the one turning this into a gender based discussion.

Pretty sure you were the one who first made the gender distinction. See below.

@Theorist:10069535

O look at that, the guys commenting just don’t “think” it happens anymore. Why am I not surprised?

[Maula_Jatt]

@Reha:10069992

Realistically speaking…I don’t think men are capable of understanding many things a woman deals with.

Its simply not possible and when its not possible…its foolish on our part to expect it.

We understand the problem but we dont understand the childish ways women generally go about dealing with their problems.

Some women will generally enjoy creating a fuss more than solutions. We care more for solutions. Some women dont believe in causality which limits their problem solving abilities.

For example, take urself, and the statements you made. Men that have posted so far are seen in disagreement with what the women have to say. Not even full disagreement, just skepticism. However, your clever little woman brain tells you its that this must mean men dont understand women. THANKGOD men didnt use this type of procedure for science.

The truth is you guys dont understand your own situations. Your misplaced illusions of grandeur and narrow perspectives put a spin on your predicaments that couldn’t be further from the truth. Pair that with your inability to understand cause and effect and youre looking at a wicked mess.

[Reha]

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@Maula_Jatt

We understand the problem but we dont understand the childish ways women generally go about dealing with their problems.

Some women will generally enjoy creating a fuss more than solutions. We care more for solutions. Some women dont believe in causality which limits their problem solving abilities.

**You don’t have solutions…you play the blame game. You like to blame women for everything that goes wrong. **

For example, take urself, and the statements you made. Men that have posted so far are seen in disagreement with what the women have to say. Not even full disagreement, just skepticism. However, your clever little woman brain tells you its that this must mean men dont understand women. THANKGOD men didnt use this type of procedure for science.

Men in this thread are saying that women exaggerate eeeeeeverything. We just make it all up and its all in our heads and nothing in the posted article even exists. If you cannot understand it…it must not exist. Right? Riiiight. So this is where sensible people say…live and let live. If you don’t get it…you probably don’t deserve to.

The truth is you guys dont understand your own situations. Your misplaced illusions of grandeur and narrow perspectives put a spin on your predicaments that couldn’t be further from the truth. Pair that with your inability to understand cause and effect and youre looking at a wicked mess.

**We understand a whole lot but if a man’s only reaction is call women drama queens…then its pointless to deal with such men in the first place. Being practical means having an open mind and not shooting a woman down just because she’s a woman and must not know a thing.

Who are you kidding? **

[Theorist]

Re: A Pakistani Girl

@Maula_Jatt

We understand the problem but we dont understand the childish ways women generally go about dealing with their problems.

Some women will generally enjoy creating a fuss more than solutions. We care more for solutions. Some women dont believe in causality which limits their problem solving abilities.

For example, take urself, and the statements you made. Men that have posted so far are seen in disagreement with what the women have to say. Not even full disagreement, just skepticism. However, your clever little woman brain tells you its that this must mean men dont understand women. THANKGOD men didnt use this type of procedure for science.

The truth is you guys dont understand your own situations. Your misplaced illusions of grandeur and narrow perspectives put a spin on your predicaments that couldn’t be further from the truth. Pair that with your inability to understand cause and effect and youre looking at a wicked mess.

wow! Just Wow! Way to play down the real issues women deal with. Tell me the solution for an 8 year old girl who gets molested and is ashamed to share this with anyone. She has been threatened so naturally as a child she does what she thinks is best. Tell me the solution for being rejected for being a girl child then you grow up hearing all sort of crap from grandparents to everyone else in the world how her parents need a boy child for their old age. Tell me the solution for a 15 year old who gets bullied in school and when she fights back, she gets called names. Please tell me the solution for a woman who got her education, got a career only to later get married and help the husband fulfill his role of a son. Again, her parents get nothing out any of it because she has nothing left to give. If she complains, she is a bad wife. If she gets divorced, she is untouchable. Do tell me if these are made up issues or if any of these can be resolved by the girl/woman who is dealing with it first hand.

easy to shrug it off saying it is all in our head than actually dealing with the problems. You may have had to deal with a lot of drama queens but not every woman who shares her problems is a drama queen.