I came across this and thought it was pretty powerful and emotional. I know there is some generalization and not everyone has the same experience, but some parts of it may ring true to someone or the other. I know quite a few girls who have been through similar situations as well.
Anyway i just thought I would share it because it is really well written.
What are your thoughts on this?
Re: A Pakistani Girl
Propaganda
Re: A Pakistani Girl
^ aaaaaaaaaaand here we go.
double standards, sexual abuse, bullying, rape…it happens. horrible and people who think it doesn’t happen or it’s propaganda when a girl speaks out…need to grow up.
Re: A Pakistani Girl
So sad and quite true. We are four sisters and were raised no different than boys. My father would shut up anybody who would say anything against having all daughters. To our parents, it never mattered but the rest of the world would not stop asking how his “nasl” will grow.
We all have established good careers, never had to ask anyone for anything, not even our husbands. Grew up extremely “khuddaar.” Yet somehow, we should still have our mouths shut and have no opinions or objections to whatever we are subjected to and the men of the house still deserve way more respect for being men. Still fighting the double standards and hypocrisy.
Re: A Pakistani Girl
I’m sure stuff like that does occur in real life but that blog seemed exaggerated, it’s like all bad things had to happen to her lmao
Re: A Pakistani Girl
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Re: A Pakistani Girl
It’s not exaggerated at all and unless you have been through this, you won’t know that nothing about this is funny. From being rejected at birth to child molestation, it’s not a laughing matter and you would be surprised how ridiculously common this is.
Re: A Pakistani Girl
Its one depressing blog which has a huge generalization. I know it does happen but thats not the only thing happening. Plus its getting changed now. I have four sisters and really dont think anyone was upset on their birth. Same applies to people I know.
I think we as a society have moved on and its not that extreme as its reflected in the blog.
Re: A Pakistani Girl
What’s so funny?
These things that happen, happen way too more often than you think. Even if sexual abuse doesn’t happen, being rejected at birth, the double standards, being treated differently (aka badly) is all too common in our culture.
If you don’t want to believe it, go ahead.
Re: A Pakistani Girl
O look at that, the guys commenting just don’t “think” it happens anymore. Why am I not surprised?
Re: A Pakistani Girl
Yeah and then she failed her grades,cut herself,got bullied,was told she smelled like curry and got cheated on by her boyfriend…she must have been cursed.
Re: A Pakistani Girl
All of this and more happened to my very sister (except the BF part) and she grew up in the US. She is now 24 and indecisive as hell. This has damaged her so bad that she does not trust anyone. and I MEAN ANYONE!
So now we are categorizing posters as “the guyz” or “girls”??!!
Wuts the definition of generalization btw? 
Before jumping the gun, one needs tou understand nobody is gona say it doesn’t happen at all. Very unfortunately it does but the trend is declined.
And we all have to continue our efforts to make sure it’s vanished completely
Re: A Pakistani Girl
Just look the way guys have responded here.
I sincerely hope it has. My youngest sister is 24 and went through all of this and more. The sad part is what she experienced growing up was far worse than what we experienced growing up. However, we all did experience the rejection and bullying. My parents never let us feel that we were any less important than boys. I only realized that when I got married into a very traditional Pakistani family where my husband is the only son. He is the apple of my MIL’s eyes and she once said to me, “Main apne bachay ko dekhe baghair ek din bhi nahi rehsakti.” and that was after I moved away from my own family to a new state where I had no support system at all. Just made me feel like why doesn’t my mother think like that for me? I have left my own behind to be with him and his family doesn’t mean I am less important to my own mother. I am sure she misses me like hell too and I sure as hell miss her!
Double standards and hypocrisy piss me off to no end! Even if it’s coming from a place of love, it annoys me.
Re: A Pakistani Girl
Just because a mother expressed love for her son it is gasp blasphemous double standards? How about the mothers of brides who interfere with their daughters’ married lives just so damad muthi may rahay.. 
I have lost a lot of sympathy after reading some posts. Btw, it is about a “pakistani girl” so how do you western girls fit into it?
Re: A Pakistani Girl
Well, they are not my mother. If I ever speak against anyone, my mother corrects me and blames me. Like I said, double standards and hypocrisy annoy me even if it’s coming from a place of love. I have very little tolerance for double standards and yet I see it all the time. You would know if you had to live like me. Don’t judge.
Re: A Pakistani Girl
Oh here we go again. Just because some of us women have either been born into non-Pakistani countries or have been raised there doesn’t make us any less Pakistani than the ones born in Chichawatni. Our parents for sure don’t consider themselves goray as soon as they get the green/yellow/blue/purple card.
Re: A Pakistani Girl
exactly! And what about subjecting those who were born or raised in the West to the common Pakistani culture as if they have a little Pakistan built here. Why wouldn’t one be confused as hell? It may be Pakistan inside the house but the outside isn’t. Don’t hold us to the same standard as those who grew up in Pakistan. Don’t expect us to immediately understand and obey all Pakistani cultural norms just because we are born into a Pakistani family. How about not raising your daughters in the west if you are expecting her to know what Pakistani culture is and what she is expected to do. Deceptive much?
Re: A Pakistani Girl
Please tell me if it doesnt happen with “guyz”… plz.
And also if girls are not the ones who bully fellow girls.
I’v examples where the gang was bullying poor fellow and girls were a part of that group.
Bullying is bad, period. Not that it should be turned into a gender-based discussion
