A Pakistani Girl

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Re: A Pakistani Girl

@Simply_Seema

Yes you can say that because you are not a women, you have no idea about

How traumatic it is for a girl/women to travel in public transport where they are being groped, pinched and molested even if the buses/wagons are segregated

How helpless she is when she has to work from dawn till dusk in the farms or other houses just to come home to get her money snatched by some male relative for his nasha and then being beaten for not cooking food on time

How frightened she is if she is travelling alone after dusk under scrutiny of people looking at her with hungry eyes and God forbid if some car drops her home late in the evening which becomes a tele tale of the whole neighborhood

How much attentive she has to be shopping in a bazaar (And I am not talking about the high end malls but the regular weekly bazaars/markets) where men are just looking for a chance to touch her even if she’s fully covered in a chadar/burka

How confused she is when only she’s being told to bring water for her brother or make dinner or clear the table or do the dishes despite the fact that she and her brother went through the same ordeal during the day

How frustrating it is when she is being asked for her marriage/family plans during job interviews

Or when she’s being told again and again for things she can’t do just because she’s a girl/women

**It’s a continuous struggle being a girl in Pakistan **where you are living under a fear of some thing happening that will ruin the izzat of your family, where you are always watchful of your surroundings, where you hear reports of 6 months old being raped by their own fathers or uncles or grand fathers.

And the list goes on.

This dear sir which you called drama is the normal life of a woman, but you will never understand that because being a guy you have never faced these issues or may be because you have sheltered the woman of your family very well so you really don’t care what happens with others and if something happens to other women you just say that she saw it coming because why did she even get out of her home on the first place in the name of Feminism

In management classes we had been taught that to identify the problem solves 50% of the problem it self so unless and until we recognize that this is a valid issue nothing can help this cause

I do not think men are that callous or insensitive as some people try to portray, but **when extremism is used in delivering the message then it becomes a laughing stock.
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“Feminists” are not helping women by this kid of rabid anti-men or bashing-men attitude.

Biggest problem with this kind of thought process is that “Oh! Only women can understand women problem”.

Women are the biggest enemies of their own kind. And it shows too.

Read your post again, you are using emotions and generalizing.

**Why give these bad examples and say in the same breath “its a normal life of a woman”? Why be so dramatic???
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Basically you are saying it is continuous battle for every girl in Pakistan to be a girl and a 6 month old girl in Pakistan is nothing but a sex object for her father or uncle.

Very appalling to say the least!

This is exactly what I said in my earlier post feminists just want to portray all women or 90% of them are somehow miserable in Pakistan.

Extremism needs to be pointed out and be opposed. I would oppose any similar attempt by men to generalize… or act as drama queens.