Re: A notice to all single women and their parents
I cook and put things away and all that, but I agree, I'm not doing toilets and floors. The cleaning service comes twice a month and does the whole house. Makes life a lot easier, and with both of us working, it's only fair.
This is probably a point for a separate thread, but I really feel that life on this earth is precious and that my time here is worth more than my money. So if spending a bit on a cleaning service is going to give me a more relaxed attitude and more time to spend with friends and family, it's more than worth it.
Mirch: Thanks :D Definitely the husband's side can be very unreasonable, and I am not making any excuses for them. But how do women expect things to magically change if they and their families are not willing to stand up and speak their mind BEFORE making commitments. Be open about your needs and expectations.
Pinks: I think you're right about the parents. Too many of them send the girls off to inappropriate marriages because of a fear of gossip and reputation. Well, you know what, parents CAN be wrong, and they can fall prey to bad influences. So make sure you discuss these things, and that every decision is one that you yourself agree with. It is not right to give up the power of decision-making to others. It's cowardly.
Sara: I agree, those things may not require training, but it's not just habit -- it's practice. There is an element of skill required in managing all of these tasks when you own and run a home. It's not easy and it can become overwhelming.