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oh god
runsaway
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^ LOL @ your edit.
I don’t see how Muzna’s replies were cynical. It was more of a protective big sister kind of advice and only good friends do that.
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^ LOL @ your edit. I don’t see How Muzna’s reply was cynical. It was more of a protective big sister kind of advice and only good friends do that.
what edit? o.O
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^ LOL @ your edit. I don’t see how Muzna’s replies were cynical. It was more of a protective big sister kind of advice and only good friends do that.
People see what they want to see.
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This thread is coming along nicely…
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And keeping with that theme:
When life1 is ashes you have my permission for a long distance relationship.
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^ Does that make me Bane or Batman?
BEFORE YOU RESPOND,
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/coughcough/103791-im-batman.html
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The replies here are interesting....lots of good advice and I don't think anyone is being cynical or jaded actually.
I was in a LDR with my (now) husband. We got engaged, got married and actually didn't live together til about 18 months after our wedding. That year and a half was tough, I think we ourselves did OK but it was external circumstances/situations that added some stress. but... yeah, I wouldnt' dismiss an LDR, as long as you have a goal in mind.
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Wait a min
How about we keep this thread to giving the best advise to inspi as per our capability and samajh-booojh instead of calling on other guppies. Everyone has different experiences and sources of knowledge and its only good for Inspi to read all sort of replies.
u guys can carry on now …
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what edit? o.O
yeah right....what edit. I saw the original post too.
good to know.
@CoughCough -- my personal experience as well as the first hand experience of some of the other "mature" members that are offering advice here is definitely trumped by your "countless hours" so by all means do continue. I concede.
you must know better since you are helping someone to attain "what they so badly want" without consideration for what they might actually need......
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You know i forgot to reply to you in that blog, but that line was originally used in the '89 Burton version and it was awesomely delivered by Keaton.
As far as what that makes you, I was just saying that a lot of the comments came off Baneish, not that there intent was that way, but when it became a pattern, I could understand why they were taken in a negative fashion.
Inspi- You’re smart enough to know what to do. You look at things with a lot of analysis (sometimes over analyzing to your own detriment), so I’m sure you are well capable of going forward with it. As far as “day to day concerns”, as that is what you said you wanted tips on, Stoppits and Syraa should be able to guide you. But each couple has a different threshold for what they want in terms of communication (in terms of type and frequency), and coming to an understanding on that and evolving it as time goes, will help things out (IMO). Good luck!!
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Inspi- You're smart enough to know what to do. You look at things with a lot of analysis (sometimes over analyzing to your own detriment), so I'm sure you are well capable of going forward with it. As far as "day to day concerns", as that is what you said you wanted tips on, Stoppits and Syraa should be able to guide you. But each couple has a different threshold for what they want in terms of communication (in terms of type and frequency), and coming to an understanding on that and evolving it as time goes, will help things out (IMO). Good luck!!
good advice.
we know that you are good at analyzing......that's what will be required.
all I would recommend to you is that you turn that analysis on yourself and make sure that this train is moving so quickly in the direction of permanency for the right reasons.......anyone that has been through a LDR will tell you the significance of taking your time and that seems to be the biggest missing factor here.
sometimes everything can be discussed, talked, addressed but as time goes on and we get to know the other person a bit more we find aspects that make us re-think or adjust.......those sorts of things cannot be predicted, only time can bring them to the forefront.
anyway.........keep your thinking cap on and tread carefully.
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I should have made my opening post clearer.
I was actually asking HOW can i do my best to make it work, not should I or should I not.
My fault for being so vague.
I came into this rather positive I feel.
This makes it easy to respond. If I recall you will soon become a medical doctor. I will assume he is your age and may have a job. If that is true - and assuming you need a year to complete degree - keep it long distance during this year. Meet each other once in 3 months at each mother's parents home. You will know in a year if you both are a good match. Take it slow and get to know each other in this year.
That is it- simple.
(These days long distance is not same as in humare zamane mein - when you had to depend on old fashioned snail mail across the seven seas).
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Forgot to add - after graduation - and if he is already settled into a job - get married and move to Canada.
And if you get a job before him he needs yo movevto Uk. This part needs to be ironed out in next 3 months.
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Inspiron,
I'm sorry, but this topic has had me agitated all night. Why? Because we sat across the table from you and listened to everything you were saying.
I would be lying if I didn't question your sincerity in liking this guy and your reasons behind this. We ALL want you to be happy. If anything, we want you to evolve and grow as a person and do things for the right reason.
Don't respond in this thread, don't respond to anybody, but at least ask YOURSELF. Look inside of yourself and ask yourself and come up with your own answers.
Good luck.
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Its pretty damn obvious to me that all of you have way too much faltoo time in life if you have spent hours discussion Inspirions private life.
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Distance doesn't ruin a relationship- Doubts do!!
Have a rational approach and be realistic!
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Am I the only one that sees the irony here?
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Am I the only one that sees the irony here?
:D