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Mehnaz: I didn't start this thread only because of her; this is a response thread to all those who have the attitude I mentioned above.
Like I said, I'm not going to argue; I hope you ladies understand it and hopefully apply it.
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Being of a certain religion has got nothing to do with being a good person.
Mullahs who burn their wife's vaginas with electric rods just cause they ventured in public without a burqa is not my definition of a good muslim.
and when did i ever imply thats my definition of being a good muslim? Lady, i have already explained why i wrote that. and Im totally fine with you disagreein with me... or what not..but please get yr head out of ur a$$ and go over eveything you've wrote. I do not know whats your religion but you have no right to judge every muslim you meet with this attitude of yours (all mullahs are wild, all terrorists are muslim..etc). I never said anything about non-muslims being characterless or not good people.
and why do u always see some one doing totally unislamic (your above example of this mullah) and make him your yard stick for the judgment of all others? just because tht person was abusive doesnt mean all other muslims are like him...
you have no right to disrespect a person who is practising whats written in Quran and compare it with an asshole who beats his wife < tht person is not a muslim to begin with.
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But in the majority of the world (or maybe I should say the western world? not sure) anyway, the majority of men leave home and make their own way in the world and they are the providers for their wife and children. This is seen (westernly) as the manly thing to do and if a son is still living with his parents beyond the age of 26 or so, eyebrows begin to raise and the term "mama's boy" starts to be used. The guy starts to lose his ability to attract a mate, even perhaps lose male friends who are out on their own.
Its not called "living with your parents" its called "your parents living with you". The manly thing to do would be take care of you parents in their time of need (i.e. old age). And those who leave their parents at a time when they are in need are bound for the hell fire.
I couldn't give two $hits about what the west thinks of me.
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and when did i ever imply thats my definition of being a good muslim? Lady, i have already explained why i wrote that. and Im totally fine with you disagreein with me... or what not..but please get yr head out of ur a$$ and go over eveything you've wrote. I do not know whats your religion but you have no write to judge every muslim you meet with this attitude of yours (all mullahs are wild, all terrorists are muslim..etc). I never said anything about non-muslims being characterless or not good people.
and why do u always see some one doing totally unislamic (your above example of this mullah) and make him your yard stick for the judgment of all others? just because tht person was abusive doesnt mean all other muslims are like him...
you have no right to disrespect a person who is practising whats written in Quran and compare it with an asshole who beats his wife < tht person is not a muslim to begin with.
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^ you proved my point to the exact tee
I thankyou very kindly.
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i know the truth hurts...
watch more of cnn ...stay ignorant, thats a way to go!
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^ ofcourse it hurts, thats why you are so angry.
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ok Anil. 
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i'm not angry.. just disappointed at your ignorance.
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mullah mullah thas what u jahil ppl have to say:halo: …tell me how many mullahs have u seen who mistreat their wifes?how many mullah have u seen in sorrow when they r blessed with a daughter and not a son?i hate when liberal folk like u talk bull**** with out providing any avidence and believe me i can prove to u that ppl like u r the ones who mistreat their wifes and not mullahs!!!
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Its not called attitude, its called Nakhray
and you are right, doesnt suit ordinary/plainjane/fat/ugly/stupid/immature girls at all.
You gotta be all that and more to be Nakhraywali 
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ahhhh so thats what its called in the muslim word. Disappointment.
No wonder
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The thing here is...most (western) parents these days whose offspring are "of age" are perfectly capable taking care of themselves for quite a number of years. And they tend to enjoy their retirement years and being on their own again like they were when they started out. And westerners are raised to be independent, live on their own. When you can send your child out in the world to be independent and successful, thats what a successful parent tries to do here.
I've yet to meet a desi couple who are caring for elderly or infirm parents. I'm sure they're out there ...but I rather think they are not the majority! Most parents are young and healthy these days well into their 50s and 60s. I also have never seen a desi guy go out and buy his own house and invite his parents to "live with him"...rather, the desi guy stays in his parents house and brings in his wife. Thats living with your parents! Playing with words wont change that fact!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with living with your parents as long as both wife and husband agree on the issue. I do see the cultural thing starting to fade though....in the generation to come, it will no longer be as common for desi guys to get a wife to bring home so that she can do all for the guy and his parents.
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Can you please stop making personal attacks?
It's not that difficult, really.
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I've yet to meet a desi couple who are caring for elderly or infirm parents. I'm sure they're out there ...but I rather think they are not the majority! Most parents are young and healthy these days well into their 50s and 60s. I also have never seen a desi guy go out and buy his own house and invite his parents to "live with him"...rather, the desi guy stays in his parents house and brings in his wife. Thats living with your parents! Playing with words wont change that fact!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with living with your parents as long as both wife and husband agree on the issue. I do see the cultural thing starting to fade though....in the generation to come, it will no longer be as common for desi guys to get a wife to bring home so that she can do all for the guy and his parents.
When the family expands, usually a new house is bought and is paid for by the working son; who also takes care of the expenses.
The west can do whatever they like; All I know is that the people on this board are Pakistani and muslim; thus they have a responsibility towards their parents and new DIL's shouldn't take their husbands away from his parents. Just because the west is embedded in kufr activities doesn't mean us Pakistani's should also indulge.
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Anil bhai jaan, just give it up
East and West are two different regions with different thinkings and beliefs.
You cannot have the best of both worlds.
There will always be flaws.
Easterns will always look down upon westerns because they think they are the cream of all just cause they are muslims
Westerns will always look down upon Easterns cause they consider them primitive
Why dont you just live your life to your accord and be happy
Screw waht everyone else has to say
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I agree with LB.
There are plenty of girls who will be willing to live with their in-laws and then there are those would rather not. There are parents who want to live with their kids after they get married, and there are also parents who would like to live seperately. Just find someone according to your likes and values and I am sure you will get along great!
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and i agree with Mehnaz.
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/\ He s just giving some advice. Nothing wrong with that. Some girls who b*tch 24/7 inhere tend to forget that one day they will be a dill mill or whatever too 
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I am also just giving advice d_p. Inshallah, he will find the kind of woman he is looking for, especially if she has the same values as he does. Since the problem lies with the girls of GS, I guess it would be safe to say not to look for a wife here.
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Thats for sure.
I'm just trying to make the point that tomorrow (i.e. 25 years from now), the girls here will be in the same position and someone will be talking about taking their jawaan son away.
I just hope you ladies give this issue a serious thought. Remember, we all have to get old.