A message to the ladies

[Anil_Khan]

Re: A message to the ladies

@Mamaof3

The thing here is...most (western) parents these days whose offspring are "of age" are perfectly capable taking care of themselves for quite a number of years. And they tend to enjoy their retirement years and being on their own again like they were when they started out. And westerners are raised to be independent, live on their own. When you can send your child out in the world to be independent and successful, thats what a successful parent tries to do here.

I've yet to meet a desi couple who are caring for elderly or infirm parents. I'm sure they're out there ...but I rather think they are not the majority! Most parents are young and healthy these days well into their 50s and 60s. I also have never seen a desi guy go out and buy his own house and invite his parents to "live with him"...rather, the desi guy stays in his parents house and brings in his wife. Thats living with your parents! Playing with words wont change that fact!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with living with your parents as long as both wife and husband agree on the issue. I do see the cultural thing starting to fade though....in the generation to come, it will no longer be as common for desi guys to get a wife to bring home so that she can do all for the guy and his parents.

When the family expands, usually a new house is bought and is paid for by the working son; who also takes care of the expenses.

The west can do whatever they like; All I know is that the people on this board are Pakistani and muslim; thus they have a responsibility towards their parents and new DIL's shouldn't take their husbands away from his parents. Just because the west is embedded in kufr activities doesn't mean us Pakistani's should also indulge.