A Man with his wife during childbirth

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I'd love for my husband to be there when I Insha Allah give birth - BUT I would probably only call him in at the very last momnet as he would probably be more of a hinderance than a help!!!!!!!!

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Hubz was with me when i had our daughter. He wouldnt have had it any other way and neither wud i. But my mum was there as well..she wanted to b there and i wanted her there as well.

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I was in during pape test, ultra sound and the dlivery day. The lady doctor always asked me if i feel comfortable with it.....and i never objected

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either the woman has a curtain from the waist down at the time of delivery OR the woman is positioned in such a way that if the man is at the upper most part of her body (ie holding her hand etc) he wont see anything. (this is how ive always seen it happen as an intern)

I highly doubt that MOST men find watching a baby coming out of a woman (from the lower half) a beautiful experience. Yes! I am sure they will find it beautiful when the child is handed to the mother and/or father and they hear the baby cry etc.

I find it hard to believe that you as a woman (assuming you are a woman) find childbirth disgusting. :bummer: I have not experienced childbirth yet but still find it to be amazing SubhanAllah. Perhaps you will 2 inshAllah when your time comes (assuming that you havent experienced it yet) :slight_smile:

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thats stupid..:S...shdnt it increase their love for eachother...cos the mother is giving birth wid so much pain and the husbn by seein that should appreciate her and respect her even more!

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Some hospitals in Pakistan do not allow husbands in the labor room. This is more due to discomfort of female nurses and female doctors (somehow they are uncomfortable delivering a child with a man present) rather than due to any preconceived discomfort for the mother.

However, I'd like to make one quick point. Men, this is for you. Especially those of you who are in Pakistan. If you don't want to (or able to) be in the delivery room when you wife gives birth, thats fine. But please do not impose YOUR mother to be with your wife when she is giving birth. I have seen it enough times and I always feel sorry for the lady who is giving birth (in most cases, first-time mothers have so many other things to worry about too). Some men have this habit of imposing their mothers in these situations, thinking that a women being there is probably helpful to their wife. I am sure your intentions are caring, and in some cases it will be fine, but please do not impose such situations on your wife without her full consent (or coerce her into it). It should entirely be the choice of the wife, who she wants with her in the delivery room. Thanks.

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^At the time of my first child's birth my husband and mother in law were there with me, we didn't want her to be there but she insisted to be there, her presence was quite uncomfortable for me.

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of course it would be…who would want their MIL seeing them half naked in pain…it should be made illegal for MIL’s to be in the labor and delivery room…seriously! :mad:

my sister told her nurses to tell the other family members (her in-laws) that only one person was allowed in the room at the time of delivery.

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Actually it depends on wife's wish whether she want her husband next to her.

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I don’t see any problem with husbands staying with wives at that time.

Why just one?