May be off topic but i want to know opinions on this >>>>> A husband doesnt allow his wife to hug her father. He doesnt allow her to shake hands with her teenager Nephew. He says its Be-ghairti and islamically not allowed. :halo: this is for sure not possessiveness right?
Oh yeah that’s pretty far-fetched, as these men are meharam. That’s like asking a man to kill himself, and calling him besharam because he came out of a women’s vag***.
As long as earth rotates, we will be surrounded by idiots lol.
Exactly. May be I am gonna tell him this someday. lets see if he is able to answer this. so ridiculous btw… 
we have all kind of ppl around us.
That is oppression, if this is happening to you, than you need to get an elder with Islamic knowledge involved. Please don’t use that example, I’m sure it will do more harm than good.
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lol no its not happening to me. he is someone i know kind of. his wife told me that he is so strict and all, then gave me these examples. i was shocked. never knew so educated guy and guy who had affairs with gals in Uni days, is so strict (in wrong way) to his wife in real life.
And where did you hear this? 
lol no its not happening to me. he is someone i know kind of. his wife told me that he is so strict and all, then gave me these examples. i was shocked. never knew so educated guy and guy who had affairs with gals in Uni days, is so strict (in wrong way) to his wife in real life.
Education is only a part of it. What about his upbringing as that counts too. he probably came from the caveman school of thought....
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Uh…you’re kidding, right? Tell me that you don’t know of ANYONE in real life who is like this…who could be as ridiculous as to not allow his own wife to hug her father and nephew.
He needs to read up on the Islamic rules/regulations again…and if not…I’d explain them to him. And if he still can’t get it…
(I wish the assaulted emoticon didn’t have a goofy grin on it).
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no certainly this is not possessiveness its called CONTROL & CHEAP THINKING !
I have been in such a situation not only for my father but with all the men in my family who are old enough to be my dad. And it didn't even involve hugging . I ended up listening names for them.
Ask the ‘brother’ to move to the moon-I hear he won’t come across any issues there.
In my humble opinion this dude has issues. I don’t have a dad but I hug my mamu who is my father figure. I don’t have nephews, but my husband is my mums nephew and on Eids and so on you see khalas kissing their nephews/nieces on the cheek/forehead etc (my mums quite sussed up on Islamic rules too and says greeting nephews/nieces isn’t Islamically wrong-just what I thought).
I’m not looking for a thread war but I seriously dislike it when certain people wish to rewrite Islamic rules. Mehrams and none-Mehrams two completely different set of people who should be treated differently. If a daughter wishes to hug her dad it’s allowed in Islam right? And if an aunt shakes hands with her nephew where is the fault in that.
How does he greet his mum/sisters/nieces?
As I said, a move to the moon maybe his best option he shouldn’t have any issues up there.
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What a weirdo. Tell him I said that.
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This is straight up jahaliith **
Wait till he has his own daughter. :D
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Finally a man that has a control on his wife. We can all learn from him!
hmm..well the question is is..is shaking hands with ur nephew and hugging ur dad worth risking ur marriage ?..
i dunnno! thats a tough one..
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Are you seriously asking this?
Anyone with an ounce of knowledge of Islam or common sense for that matter would know that there is nothing wrong with hugging your own father.
That guy is an idiot. Plain and simple.
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soni27 - your asking if shaking hands with nephew and hugging your dad is worth risking your marriage? By listening to an idiot husband who demands such ridiculous obedience...you are condoning that type of radical behaviour.
Marriage is not the ONLY thing that defines a woman. A woman needs to stand up for her rights especially against a husband that is demanding something so unreasonable of her. And if that impacts her marriage negatively...so be it....the guy isnt good for her to begin with.
hmm..well the question is is..is shaking hands with ur nephew and hugging ur dad worth risking ur marriage ?..
i dunnno! thats a tough one..
My take on this-you can FIND another husband-fathers, brothers, mamu etc are not replaceable.
The brother clearly needs to get his head out of his a$! and consider the matter at hand-he needs to see a shrink.
Maybe the husband knows his father in law too well 