njgal, but it sounds like you're saying you can compare the two....TLK's point was that sangeet is as haram as saath phairay, and you were saying that if you can have a sangeet, go ahead and do saath phairay. thats my point of contention, i think just because you're doing one thing that's considered wrong religiously doesnt mean you should go ahead and do all 50 things that would be considered wrong.
lol this is getting confusing...
I don't claim to be a religious expert.
Every islamic wedding that I have went to had a religious part and a cultural (rasm) part for Muslim, Jewish, Hindu and Christian weddings.
I agree with you it is confusing because some people don't know which one is which.
Contemporary Hindus don't even do 90% of the traditions that are done in India because it's just sooo time consuming.
My point is the if** you do the islamic part** and tack on the rasm part from any culture - it's okay
I am all for a wedding day that brings JOY to the bride and groom and their families.
For couples who have spouses from other cultures - some rasms, traditions are usually depicted or taken from both sides of the family.