your Iman should not be that weak that these bhajjan and moving around the fire makes you question the “Wahadiat of ALLAH SWT”. besides if she was really questioning the shirk, then she shouldn’t be doing it.
lately, i am witnessing this chawwal rasam among pakistanis as well. when bride throws the chawwal at the back. i find it totally a rubbish ritual. it is literally painful for me to see this rasam cuz there are hundreds of people literally dying cuz of hunger, aur yahan logoon ko ayashi ki pari hoe hai.
but if i ever will be put in the same situation than when my MIL-to-be puts a tray of rice in fronts of me…it is not that gonna throw it on her face.
because i should not forget that i am not the one responsible to provide food to everyone. the least is in my hands is to respect it (rice). so i will constantly hate my action of throwing the rice.
similar is the situation here. first, when bride changed her religion then should have acknowledged that she is on her own now. she can pray to ALLAH SWT that make her husband help her to go through this difficult phase, but she cant make anyone. her first step of choosing the right path is done. and now she will be put through several tests.
this situation may also be her test. if she changed her religion without worrying about her parents, then there shouldn’t be any problem in dealing with this hindu-muslim marriage clash.
but then there are many who initially change religion not cuz they started fearing ALLAH SWT but cuz the love of their (girl/guy) demands them to do so. they will take time to sink into the concept. and inshaALLAH when she will have these concepts penetrate into their soul…even though she will regret her past but then she will be a true devotee (asking for forgiveness constantly).