That was my first time in my life I ever had to bring a balance between two sets of grown ups. I was their connection. It took me sometime. It happens in every marriage, husbands need to bring the harmony and peace.
YOu watch too many indian movies PCG. In real life, people go through real struggles, they dont sing songs in the rain or in front of fireplace.
you teach that woman, man .. 
Yes CE, there was a time when we both decided to throw in the towel. One common friend encouraged us not to give up and the rest is history :D
I'm curious don't mind. but did niksik have to do most of the pushing to get married or was it a joint decision? where u scared to face ur parents at first? how did they react when u first told them? where u scared of commitment at all? Did niksik ever worry what would happen if things never worked out between the two of u after u got married
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He is lucky to have her indeed. But to ENCOURAGE other men to behave like this with awww how sweets! That's stupid. Every woman here would be angry if it was done to her. And some would go so far as to break their marriages.
There is NO excuse for treating your family like crap. None. If anything, TLK should be advising the guys to identify these types of feelings and annhilate them ASAP because it's not worth putting your family through that kind of nonsense.
I'm sure TLK would be devastated if it were done to his daughters later on. How forgiving would he be then?
This is typical of Pakistanis. Blood relations always trump the relation with a wife.
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Thats sad. You married this woman, you did all you can and you succeeded. If your family cudnt see your happiness (then i wudnt see no guilt) Instead i wud feel hurt myself that my family cudnt see tht this someone makes me happy. I wud never take it out on my husband, and im sure my husband wudnt take it out on me either. Because we was in this together, and we both made the choice to do it. (However i dont agree with the totally going against parents as in its always the girls that leave her side n dont speak forever) Yea thats it.
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This thread is getting interesting with every post 
It doesn’t happen in every marriage. Real men put their families in place if they are cold to their new bahu. They treat their wife before and after marriage the same: with love and respect.
Tell me. It was easy BEFORE marriage to juggle these relationships wasn’t it? What is it about signing your name to a piece of paper that all of a sudden changes things?
Let me answer that for ya.
After nikkah you know she ain’t going anywhere so you can have your moods and she just gotta deal with it. If a woman does that, she is a *%#^% all of a sudden.
This behavior is destructive. Not cute.
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PCG is soooooo RIGHT!!!
Oye, I just started thread about love marriage, this is not my interview thread …
No, it was a purely joint decsion. No pushing from either party. No I was not scared at all. They took it pretty ok but I did get my ‘we hope you know what you are doing’ lectures. No CE, I was not scared of this commitment, I knew what I was doing. Only thing is, we did not rush into it. I think we knew each other for 3 years before we got married. I dont think that niki was worried about what if it did not work out but I think she would be the better person to answer this question.
what happened here.
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with all due respect to everyone here.......life and marriage isn't all roses.
couples fight and even the best couples have thought about throwing it in and breaking up.
And guess what....sometimes families come first before wife (or husband).
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Furthermore, these sorts of apologies are better done in private. You could be awakening all sorts of feelings in her with this, like she needs that now.
*Kids can we behave? Thanks. *
yeah what she said...
goes double for retarded kids with beards... Inshallah... Mashallah... Ameen... etc etc
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^ u 2 are like Peter and that chicken who fight and bicker whenever they see each other. and they dont even remember how it all started. Now quit it.
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TLK, r u still happy u decided to open this thread?? 
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proof that all maulanas need lobotomies
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Is it another attempt to come close to me.. to perform lobotomy on me? .. sowwy to burst your gubara but me don swing that way.
It doesn't happen in every marriage. Real men put their families in place if they are cold to their new bahu. They treat their wife before and after marriage the same: with love and respect.
Tell me. It was easy BEFORE marriage to juggle these relationships wasn't it? What is it about signing your name to a piece of paper that all of a sudden changes things?
Let me answer that for ya.
After nikkah you know she ain't going anywhere so you can have your moods and she just gotta deal with it. If a woman does that, she is a *%#^% all of a sudden.
This behavior is destructive. Not cute.
Thanks for your input Dr. Ruth ...
no it was not easy to juggle the relationship even before the marriage, but after signing the paper, every thing was more real than ever, I had no choice but to juggle the relationships, there was no escape.
And we got married in USA, not inside the caves of Africa where she was trapped and could not go anywhere once she is married. The only reason she got to see my ugly side cause she was my wife. That is what happens in married life. You open up only in front of your spouse, not because you were taking her for granted but you feel close to her to share your frustrations (or hope that she would understand your frustrations)
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As long as TLK has realised the whole situation it's all good. I'm sure his wife understands him that's why she is still with him and em sure forgave him.
Oye where is your dimagh? 
this is not an apology. She is not even in the country, she cant even see this thread or will read it for next one month. I opened this thread cause someone has a thread going on where the girl has a love marriage, its only 10 days and she is suprised by her hubby’s behavior. I wanted her to know what guys go through.
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Ok I am sorry guys, did I miss something MC12IT and Samb, is this about me or you guys are just in love with each other and decided to express it in this thread also …
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lol I was thinking the same thing tht this thread ain't no apology