Thanks for your input Dr. Ruth …
no it was not easy to juggle the relationship even before the marriage, but after signing the paper, every thing was more real than ever, I had no choice but to juggle the relationships, there was no escape.
And we got married in USA, not inside the caves of Africa where she was trapped and could not go anywhere once she is married. The only reason she got to see my ugly side cause she was my wife. That is what happens in married life. You open up only in front of your spouse, not because you were taking her for granted but you feel close to her to share your frustrations (or hope that she would understand your frustrations)