A guy's perspective about love marriages ...

[sidra87]

Good for you for realizing what you did and you saved your marriage. Not all boys are that mature and grown-up.

APPLAUDE!

@TLK

.. and why most of them fail. Especially the ones where the couple went against their family wishes to marry.

I can share my perspective. Ours is a love marriage. My family was initially not in agreement. I went through hell to marry her. Off course we got married with our parents’ blessing at the end. Right after the wedding, a sudden guilt kicked in. I got what I wanted but I realized that i bruised some egos and hurt some feelings. I felt selfish. That made me lean more towards my family to make up for my previous stubbornness. Also, all my frustrations, I took out on my lovely wife. I can guarantee you that it was a rough patch for her where not only that she was struggling to bridge the gaps with her inlaws but must also be surprised that what happened to the guy who loved me so much.

I must admit that my wife is one strong woman. I always loved her dearly, even when I was taking out my frustration on her, but how would she know that. My attitude was definitely saying otherwise. I think that she had more confidence on her love for me than on my love for her.

I see many threads where girls get a surprise by the sudden change of their hubby’s behavior. My advice is .. dont give up ladies. Its all temporary. If this was a love marriage then he still loves you as much. He may only be going through a little guilt tunnel. He will be ok soon.