A guy in my school

There’s this guy in my school who’s been annoying me a lot. I never had any direct contact with him, but I feel something MUST be done.

Okay, so this guy is named “Habib”. “Habib” was the older brother of a past friend (who i broke connection with, because of personal reasons and my older cousins going against me for being friends with him, VERY long story that will be posted if needed). They were clowns who were attracted and had bad intentions for desi girls (as most guppies would say). They were Afghans though his younger brother lied to me that he was Paki, and well, I was fooled because they spoke Urdu frequently as well.

I confronted him once to take down a picture on Facebook that was a very personal picture of my twin, 18 year old cousins whom he knew and did not like, on Facebook. I told him I would not do anything and simply asked him to take it down. He refused and began insulting me because I was “paki” which was a lame comeback to anything. :smack: I told him to please go screw himself and blocked him as he was adding me from different accounts my cousin warned me about.

Now, here’s where it really starts. My close friend in school (Turkish, muslim, doesn’t speak urdu or hindi but knows a very small amount) daily tells me that Habib is in ‘love’ with her. you know how pedo-ish this is? This dude’s like a senior in high school, and she’s my age. She says at first, it wasn’t so annoying but later on, she saw that his Facebook profile were full of obsessive love quotes and how he would kill himself without having her. And whenever I go to his profile (she blocked him and so asks me sometimes to print out what he writes on his wall which are things about her), LOVE quotes, HATE quotes about her. I’m angry, because he even called her a b---- in several of those statuses. Also: my friend says he keeps on text messaging her and calling her home, saying that he wants to marry her. She cursed her heart out at him, but he just wouldn’t budge. She doesn’t want him. She’s tried so hard to shove him away but he keeps showing this stalkerish behavior. I told her to try blocking his number, but it wouldn’t help because he is everywhere she sees, and its hard avoiding him. He calls and says hes coming over to her house (he doesn’t know where she lives, wtf?)

My friend asks for my advice, because she is no longer friends with him anymore. Idk what to do, but I really feel like kicking his ass. She doesn’t deserve this. I love my friend, I want whats best for her. This guy is asking for a thappar on his face because honestly, this is going too far.

:nono: :offtopic:

Also: He doesn’t know I’m friends with the person he’s ‘in love with’. my friend does not like any of the attention anymore, at least not at first. She said she isn’t attracted to him at all. Not a tiny bit. And its not hard collecting evidence of what he’s representing stalkerish behavior: I can always print out his easily visible Facebook wall page and give it to my friend. Some of his posts go like this,

“B---- I would rather f— ya then love ya becuz b---- i never trust ya!”
“Baby you are the world to me” A TON of Bull**** like this!!

Then at one point, he tried to be cool in his statuses, (cool as in he didn’t want anyone to think a girl ‘dumped’ him or anything like that) saying stuff like, “some women aren’t worth your time, she would come crying back to me, etc…” you get what I’m saying? Some of those posts are truly entertaining sometimes,because thats what all he writes about on facebook. :smack:

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Go smack the $h*t outa him..... no I'm joking, kind of......can't you report it to the police?

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This is definitely abusive behavoir. If any man truly cares about a women he spills his feelings and let's her make a decision after all he should only want what's best for her. This 90's Shah Rukh Khan behavoir is not cool. She should definitely report this to the police, possibly get a restraining order.

How much action is your friend willing to take? Why is she asking you to check his facebook? Is it possible she likes the attention?

Keep evidence of everything he does.

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Good suggestion Ria!

I sure do. And joking or not, I will smack the sh#% out of him :O lol.

She doesn't like the attention, at first she thought it was somewhat cute but then later on she really felt pissed off at him and even called him an @!%^@.

I'm not sure about the restraining order, but I'll try suggesting that to my friend (:

Yea I wasn't joking. That was my first suggestion lol. Any guy like that needs to be kicked off his high horse then trampled upon. I'm evil, I know!

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Also you can attempt reporting him to facebook. Actually facebook is a little slow on taking action to abuse.

Look up information on who you can report facebook to...

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Can someone summarize.

GuardianAngel knows of an Afghan guy and she has a Turkish friend. Afghan guy is a senior in high school. Turkish girl is same age at GuardianAngel (14 if you remember)... Guardian thinks is pedo-ish. Guardian does not like the Afghan guy, she hates him. Afghan guy is creepy and stalkerish, writes statuses on fb pertaining to Turkish girl who he is obsessed with... threatens her, calls her, and tells the Turk that he knows where she lives. GuardianAngel is worried, what should she do??

:Edit: Forgot to add, Afghan is threatening to kill himself if he doesn't get Turk girl. And Turk girl isn't attracted to him at all. Guardian has proof of all of Afghan's stalkerish activities on fb (the statuses) pertaining to Turk.

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^ Her friend is getting unwanted attention from some guy who is being stalkerish and posting stuff about her on facebook and also calling her etc.

GuardianAngel is worried, or jealous?

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If Afghani guy knows Turk girl's name or her parents' names, it's not hard to find her address because of the white pages. Is he specifically tagging the girl in his statuses on fb (@name) that people can tell for sure his statuses are referring to your friend? And it's not that unusual for a senior in high school (age 17 or 18) to be interested in girls around your age (14). But yes, his behavior is scary. I have come across guys like that who did that to friends or others that I knew. The girls kept ignoring the behavior... but eventually they turned to the police or they spoke to their teachers/professors who got the police involved. The guys would break into these girls' apartments or knock at their doors all night long... so it can get scary. You never know when people can snap and become violent.

The girl should tell her parents. I don't think she has anything to worry about, she doesn't like the guy. And he's hurting her reputation, talking trash about her, her parents would want to know. A stern warning from the parents might knock some sense into him. I don't think it's best for you to get involved, otherwise, he will do the same to you. In the meantime, your friend should report on fb and deactivate her account. Deactivate because even if she blocks the guy, his friends might be able to look her up.

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I think guardianangel needs to go back to studying and stop being a guardian for others.

:hmmm: well, she said she found Afghan annoying, but that could mean different things.

Ha ha, very funny. :P

No, I'm worried. Anything can happen to her. This stalker is the guy who has harassed my older cousins before, and I'm certainly not letting that happen to my friend.

GuardianAngel are you in gifted/advanced English? You write freakishly well for a 14 year old :hmmm:

Thanks :)
That's exactly what I'm worried about. Seriously, my friend isn't the most physically defensive person ever, and it could get creepy if this goes on.
I didn't think about her parents at all, either. I'll try mentioning that to her as well.

lol, not really. I was born in the U.S. and was raised here most of my life. I have an English accent but I speak Urdu frequently with the family.

Stalker alert... if you are in school, don't you have a counsellor or someone else you can approach. If he really is as creepy as you make him, I would suggest you friend talk to authorities right away, it may lead to complications later on.