Re: a gud daughter in law…
We prefer to live in the real world. The world that has people like RV and I…not in a fantasy world where the MIL and DIL are getting on like a house on fire. Life is tough and it does not hurt to make this situation easier for both parties. So having minimal expectations decreases chances of disappointment as well as many other evils. The relationship will NEVER EVER be one that can be compared to our parents. In Islam, there is no mention of the ridiculous joint family system, MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, etc. No where do these people exist! So why shove them in a box they dont belong in??? It makes no sense. Apne maan baap ki jagah koi nahin lesakta.
Oh please. For the last few threads, all its been about is “women are dependent, mazloom and bebass creatures. they will always need a man and men are amazing and blah blah blah”. Someone has either inflated your ego to set you up or you really believe the things you write. I have an easy solution for you: dont get married to a woman. 
Thats what we’re doing. The problem with men such as yourself is that you believe in backward thought…keeping a woman down will help our society function…aurat ko qaabu mein rakhna as they say. Thats what your thought process suggests. If you’re real and actually believe the things you say…its sad.