a gud daughter in law....

[Reha]

Re: a gud daughter in law…

@diwana

Aa Gaeen Aap? Khair Mubarak!

Anyhow, I did not expect anything good from you. You are so predictable.’

Absolutely wrong there.

You do good for doing good.

One cannot generalize and be paranoid like these dys unmarried women are for their future in-laws.

Try not to instigate or instill negativity.

You say respect is earned, fine… then why not say the good treatment for DIL from in laws should be earned also? She should also work for it. Goes both ways!
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Besides, if one cannot expect good from people then one should not even try to expect bad for no real reason.**

No wonder why I had to make fun of/question so called Oscar awards! Sorry shak!

No one said they are your parents literally. But they are your lover’s/husband’s parents and have same level as your parents.

I am appalled to see your comment in giving your friends more credibility than the parents of your husband. Come on.

Positivity begets positve reaction. Negativity brngs negative attityde from people.

Having said that, elders need to be given respect and and room for mistakes.

**If you marry someone (man or woman) accept his or her parents as your own. That’s it.

No if, and or but there.**

Diwana,

Try not to instigate something this time would you?

When I die, Allah swt will not call me by my husband’s or MIL or FIL’s name. All ties except those that Allah swt gave you are severed the day you die. That is a fact. So your statements are inaccurate. Nowhere have I seen any references to a saas or sasur. So - with all due respect - this is just a backward ideology some men possess that saas means everything. Its a bahana to make their wives do khidmat of their parents because they do not want to themselves. Apne maan baap ki khud khidmat karne ka vaqt nahin hota hai - bivi ki sar pe aram se thopke agay barajayein.

My best friends are literally like my sisters. I grew up with them and they hold a special place in my heart. No one can take that away just because I got married. There will always be a certain freedom, love and confidence I share with them that I will not have with anyone else. Of course, one can hope and pray for the best but again…be realistic.

A woman’s life goes way beyond pleasing and living for the mere pleasure of her saas and susar.

You saying whatever you’re saying does not make it true or the rule across the globe. The reality is, we naturally do not accept anyone in the place of our own parents. It is what it is. So why fight this idea and just accept that in-laws will be in-laws…no changing that.