Reha
January 11, 2011, 7:18pm
53
Re: a gud daughter in law…
Wrong.
First things first…women are not obedient. They dont go to obedience school like a puppy. They go to the same colleges and universities you do and work in the same jobs you possess. They earn as much and are now possessing higher degrees than men.
Second, because inlaws dont have any responsibility towards me nor I towards them. Its not mandated anywhere that they be good to me or vice versa. Its something people do out of the goodness of their hearts. Plus paying two mortgages can be expensive.
My husband and I do have responsibilities as well as rights over each other. The people I should have expectations from are my parents, husband, children, best friends, etc. If its required that I be a good wife, its also required that he be a good husband.
Tell me why anyone would have expectations from inlaws. Vo kya karenge? Mere bachay palenge? Khana pakayenge mere ghar ka? No. Its the other way around. They need someone to help them. So its great to help them but what could anyone possibly expect from them? Why even expect?
Its not the women that are confused it seems. Its the men. Its a few here that want all the benefits but do not want to do anything to earn them.
Expectations rakho to demanding and high maintenance. Na rakho to insulting and degrading.
Nomi, I cannot repeat myelf…especially when I take the time to be clear the first time. For the answer to your question below…see above.
I have a right over my parents, husband, friends, etc. As for for husband and my expectations from him - we agreed to spend our lives together when we signed the dotted line. So, I have every right to expect whatever I want from him.
NomiCA:
why have expectations from husband too?? i mean many women come here with their problems that their husband is not like before, or not meeting expectations etc etc…
if all those women didn’t expect much from their husbands…wouldn’t they be happier?