a gud daughter in law....

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Re: a gud daughter in law…

@Reha

Hunh? You need to read my posts carefully.

Inlaws will never be your own parents. That is a fact. My mother and father did all the work, they get the credit.

My MIL gets respect, care, attention and whatever support she needs from us. Thats enough. Do I expect anything in return? No. Do I expect her to say thanks? No. Do I expect her to buy me gold for my wedding? No. Do I care? No. I did my best, the rest is in Allah’s hands.

When you go to your parents’ home and do something good or bad…you dont think twice about it because its your parents’ home. They will love you even if you turned green, grew purple hair and had fangs. Even when we do things that hurt them, they forgive us. Your mother and father are the only people in the world with that capability. No one else possesses it. And because of that, no one else deserves their darja in your life.

When you go to your inlaws’ home…I dont understand why people think it might be the same. Inlaws already had their kids, you think they were looking for more when they married you to their son? If you screw up every single day, do you think your MIL will brush it to the side saying “chalo koi baat nahin, beti hai meri…ghaltiyan yahan nahin karegi to aur kahan karegi”. No way. She will say “beta, apni ammi se kaho ke tumko dhang ki roti banana sikha dein”…with a smile of course because after all…vo to bilkul maan jaisi hein na.

There is a difference that should be noted so we dont set ourselves up for failure. Your expectations from your inlaws need to be realistic otherwise you are in for a very rough ride.

dats y the bahoos remain unfair bcuz inlaws bechari ko kabhi nahi BAKSHTE…lol… n bahoo apni frustration me un k sath fair nahi rehti hahaha…