Re: A girl with a past?
Every mother-in-law is different. You have nice ones and cruel ones and people somewhere in between. Personally, I would have a talk with my son and the girl. I’d honestly tell them how I feel and why. They should understand. Then I would let them get married. It’s my son who has to spend his life in a marriage, not me, so he has to be happy with the person he wants to marry. After our talk I don’t see any reason to keep bringing up what they both did. Not just the girl, they both did it in this case. When the wedding is over, I’d let them start their new life together in peace. In their own home.
I have to say that our family situation is a bit different. My son is an agnostic now. He is doubting which religion is real and I don’t see why I should force him to remain Muslim if one day he decides a different religion or perhaps atheïsm is more suited to his opinions. It is a pity, yes, all I can do is give him better arguments in favour of Islam, but in the end he has to decide. I raised him with stories about Islam and explained him many Islamic issues. Now at this age, it’s his own responsibilty what to do. Just like marriage, faith has to be your own decision too. I explain values in life and religion, but I leave it to the choice of my children what to do with this knowledge, once they reach the proper age to be able to think rationally and take full responsibility of their life choices. Of course I hope Islam will be their end choice, but faith can’t be forced, it has to come from within.
I always told my children to think for themselves too about everything, make sure they are well-informed about their issues, and take responsibility for their believes and decisions in life. In the end, every human is responsible for his or her own deeds and intentions.