Re: A girl/guy situation - Comment Please
She is stringing him along till she finds a better deal.....
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For the guy it has become an issue of ego , where before "every girl" would "fall" for him , here is one who knows him well enough and is not following the trend he is used to and thus it is hurting his Ego !*
Re: A girl/guy situation - Comment Please
She won't man. He's in the friend zone. When people like someone, they make damn sure that they keep in touch with the other person. He needs to break contact for 7 or 8 months and then contact her, if at all.
Simple test: whenever she does stuff like that, ask your friend if he would put up with that crap from a girl he wasn't interested in?
And I'm not saying she's a bad person. She probably just considers him a friend. On the other hand, she might be keeping him around because she likes the ego boost. Sadly I know girls who string guys along like that. It's sad, for the guy (man up) and the girl (grow up).
I asked him to do the same thing. but he said .. I am afraid, she would not talk to me ever then. she is very egoistic. she never forget a mistake. and this guy is afraid that if he stops talking to her .. she might start talking to someone else (since she has friends). and after 7-8 months he might not even have a chance
I had discussion with the guy last night. and he seems pretty serious. he said, even if she tell me "yes" then i am willing to wait for her till 3-4 years to get married. I asked, "but you said she is not a marriage material". to which he replied that yeah, she is not for typical pakistani guys who goes for ghardari, khana pakana .. Idun care about these things .. .. all i care is about her.
so now he is being in the "hope" that things might turn nice. One of the thing that he was saying was that she might like me .. but .. she does not want to show anything since she doesn't want to be in ANY relationship. she said its not just you, even if someone else would ask me to .. I will never. I dun want to add another responsibility on me .. I already have lots of things going on in my life so i want tackle them first before i end up being in a relationship.
Re: A girl/guy situation - Comment Please
^ He should be frank with her. Tell her how he feels (wants to marry her, date her, whatever) and also say that **if she doesn't want that then he can't just be friends with her. **He should mention that it's painful for him to simply be friends with her and if she doesn't want a romantic relationship then he needs to move on. At least until he has gotten over her.
This does not have to be said in a rude way. Just honest. Because I'm telling you, it sounds like she's stringing him along and he can't accept that. There's no dating in our culture but amongst white people I've seen this kind of crap way too often. Ever hear the saying "nice guys finish last"? It's not because they're nice, it's because nice guys are usually door mats for women and they don't respect that. On the other hand, "bad boys" usually do what they want and are not at her beck and call 24/7 which makes them more attractive to women.
I'm not saying he should be rude at all! But he needs to have some self respect and move on for his sake. If he can't do that, then you should just accept that he's going to be this miserable until she does decide to marry some other guy. If he keeps doing what he's doing, he'll be miserable and nothing will change. This isn't a movie. She won't suddenly realize she has feelings for him. The best thing you can do as a friend is help him move on (or at least pretend to move on) and if he won't do that then there's nothing you can do.
Re: A girl/guy situation - Comment Please
I am not sure what he is upto. but it seems that he "does" have feelings for her but he is not going to stick to her forever. he said let the time decide and by that time .. I will have "other friends" as well .. but she will remain my priority. I asked him .. all you want to date her? he said no .. .. even if i decide to get marry, i willd efinitely propose to her even though I am in friendzone or what not .. but definitely i will take my chances before I ask someone else ..
Honestly, every single girls' curse is on him now .. :p .. .. I laugh like crazy whenever he talks to me about her .. :d .. lol! .. poor him