This situation is my friends situation. I can’t explain it that much since i don’t know the details and i don’t know the girls of “canada”. how they are. I am going to post my whatever points comesi n my mind which i have extracted while talkign with him so make your judegments and comments based on this conversation.
Few Noted about my friend and the girl:
- Friend has never met that girl, though they had video chats couple of times
- Friend was a player. There were lots of girls around him but he never liked ANY. used to talk/date them for few months and then bye bye
- According to friend, this girl believes she is hot and lots of guys has asked her out and she has turned everyone down. she doesn’t talk to any guy “That much”. But she does talk to guys. she has “guy friends”. met them either in unviersity or through some friends but she never hangout or meet these guys in “person”. she is just so much into studies. thats all what she does.
- Its been almost 3 years these guys are talking to each other ON/OFF. Everytime girl stopped talking to the guy for some stupid reasons (i dun know what reasons were. never asked him). and after 3-4 months .. she started talking to him again.
Rememer: I don’t know the details scenario.
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My friend likes this girl (thats what he has told me) but according to him he is in friendzone (girl told him that you are my buddy. not someone i am afraid off).
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My friend said to her, how can i be buddy when you spend almost your day talking to me either on text or on phone.
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Me to friend: because she does not have anyone around and every girl needs an attention and you are giving her that attention
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Me to friend: but if you think, the way you guys are acting. you guys are in sort of relationship but you guys are in “denial”
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My friend: I think so too. I asked her. She said I talk to every guy like that. I said, so you talk to every guy that much? if you are giving that much time to me, then you must be spending the same amount of time to your studies and other guys. is your day more than 24 hours? to which she replied. you are my friend. to which he replied, I got it .. but am i just another friend or i am more than other friends? she said, ofcourse more than other friends.
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According to my friend, that girl doesn’t talk to any guy that much. the first thing that she does when she gets up is to text him. all day long texting and it ends up just before they sleep.
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I asked my friend to ask her out. He did and to which she replied that I don’t want to be in a relationship. He argued, the way we are .. we are already in relationship (almost). she said, but things are better in this way as long as we are buddies. things would complex if we get into relationship. I want to be carefree. to which friend said, I would not add to your problems. u know me very well - I am mature enough to understand the ups/downs of relationship and i dun expect you to be around me 24 hours since you have ur studies and family priorities.
My conclusion
This guy is just obsessed with her. Since he can’t be at same level that he always was with other girls. so its jsut his obsession. But he is not believing in this thing. He always say, that i like her. but i don’t love her. that girl is so not the girl someone would like to marry but still I would love to be with her.
Thats all i can think off right now. I will post more if things come up in my mind. Lets see what you guys say. Since from my point of view, this girl clearly likes him but she just don’t want to do any commitment. on theo ther hand this guy is obsessed about her .. I dun think that he loves her. but he is unable to move on since he does not have any other girl around.
I am not sure if cultural (canada/pakistan) difference is making an impact here or not. Thats why i thought to share since whatever advice i gave to taht guy would totally work for the girl if she was born/raised in pakistan but in this case. its not working
P.S:
I know its my biggest mistake to post in Life1 section. since this thread has nothign to do with MIL, SHADI, etc .. 
.. and i know there gona be lots of off topic replies ..