Well atleast she was for a few years until she met her husband, suddenly I didn’t excist, but I never really realised this, anyway, Before she would call me in the evening and tell what she been doing all day, now the last couple of months, I didn’t recieve any calls, only if she needs money or any work I need to do for her. I really liked her, she was my really good friend, she was the first girl whom I trusted and loved, but we used to fight everyday, atleast once in a day(and those fights were not over small things, there was always huge issues), but still we always ended up as friends. Another friend who was a friend of me and her, she always used to watch us fighting, but suddenly she also had enough and she started staying away from me and her.
Now since this girl she found her husband (that was about 6 months ago) me and her don’t talk/meet much anymore, everything has changed so much, sometimes it just scares me to death, I called her my friend, and I know I did what I could for her. She needed money, I was there. She needed a shoulder, I was there. I don’t know why but I started hating her. I’m not alone, the other friend also started hating her. And since the last couple of months she (and a few other people who knows about me and her, obviously they all know her much better than me) told me that “this friend” is using me, she have been using me for a long time, she always knew that she had a big place in my heart, at that time I didn’t want to believe her (or other girls) until just a few days ago, when I for real; realised that she never really cared about me. Everyone said i should stay away from her, but I was to blind.
How could everyone see that she was using me? And I couldnt see it?
I don’t know if I should cry, hell I don’t know what’s gonna happen now.
It just hurts so much, A girl you call your friend, best friend, why do I start thinking about all the things I did for her? I prayed for her every single day for her hapiness, why do I start regretting all these things?.. I still hope she will be happy, but she did hurt me big time…
aww babes i know exaclty how u feel…iv had people use and abuse me aswell and it most definately does hurt, especially since u invest so much time and energy in being a real friend.
only trouble is…i never learn im too trusting and i cant help it!!
well if she used u like that , she wasnt a good friend to begin with. khamkha aisay logo par afsos karnay say faida?
as for friends getting married and not keeping in touch. my friends understand that there is another person in my life who means the world to me. they understand that and respect it. they also know that they'll always be my best friends even if i dont call them for weeks.good friends dont need to prove their loyalty to each other. they just know it. things change after u get married, takes a lil adjustment but friends get used to it. :-)
i've made it abundantly clear to my friends that i will sell each of them out for a single woman if it advances my causes, and i will understand, no expect, the same coming from them.
Dont be so hard on urself.. all of us have had friends like that.
The important baath here is to learn from what mistakes you made.. become wiser and move on.
Dont beat yourself up about it and dont dwell on it. I went thru the same thing and held onto it fro 6 yrs. now Ilook back and realize how many good friends I punished because of that one sour one.
Look, siht happens, people come and go through your life…if you cannot judge who is using you versus wo is just busy with different priorities then maybe you deserve the treatment. Not saying it is right but it is a hard world out there
Oh she'll be back, because right now she's just getting used to married life, maybe for right now all she can balance in her life is having a hubby and her new family inlaws... his friends etc. You need to think if she does comeback than if you want her in your life, because with real good friends you never have doubts even if they are MIA for months. Don't mean to get all Dr. Phil on you but I think there is something deeper in this, sometimes two people can be great friend but their just not good together you know what I mean?
I'm sure you will be the same way, thats just how it is. My friends did the same to me and now I'm doing the same to them. I dont have time for anyone any more. I would rather be talking to the love of my life than my friends who I hardly am close to. Thats life, everyone screws everyone over.
Well, this friend, she only calls when she needs help, do you get me? I arranged her engagement, I even arranged her wedding, I did all the stuff her brothers were suppose to do, ordered food/cake, so many things,I was never home thos days, and I made my mother so angry thos days, (I went against my mom thos days, my mom never wanted me to do all these things, but I did it cuz I liked her so much).I regret it so much, I still can’t believe all this is happening. I told you I didn’t realise she was using me, until a few days ago. Its perfectly fine if she doesn’t call, but why does she only call when she needs something? why can’t she call to ask my haal chaal? She knew all the siht going on in my life? but she only calls when she needs something…
I invested so much energy, so much time, I really did her engagement, her wedding… I was so blind MM this is not first time, I been used before too… and I’m like you, I never learn…
You allowed yourself to be used in a way. You knew that was why she was calling and yet you didn't say I can't do it. Just sounds a bit doormatish, sorry.
I trying to say this in the nicest way, but consider this a learning experience. I know you're hurt, but you'll live :) Try to protect yourself a little. One of the hardest things to learn as you grow is balancing the urge to help others with the real need to protect yourself.
I allowed her to use me, cuz I thought we were friends for life, but obviously we were not. and its all good, u can be harsh, I need someone to yell at me right now. I think I learned alot, never keep best friends.
Sherni, I think a lot of us have come across such “friends” at some point in our life. All you can do is learn from it and try not to make the same mistake again. You will only learn how to identify such people through experience. You are wiser now. Don’t worry, there will be a time when you will look back and think about her and won’t care at all.
babes i know exaclty how u feel…iv had people use and abuse me aswell and it most definately does hurt, especially since u invest so much time and energy in being a real friend.
im too trusting and i cant help it!!
her engagement, her wedding… I was so blind MM 
and its all good, u can be harsh, I need someone to yell at me right now. I think I learned alot, never keep best friends.