You're friend sounds like a d*bag ... sorry.
And we're all only hearing one side of the story.
She gave birth to HIS kids - obviously there was some attraction there, he married her.
But sadly - thats all it seems like - attraction. Now that she doesn't look fit - he's off to another prospect.
Marriage is so much more then bodies colliding and sweating it out.
What if this guy become paralyzed and couldn't perform his duties - should she leave or better yet cheat?
Gross this guy - chota demaagh and yes very dense.
gemini the guys within your context are typical khi pakistani men, the vast majority of whom don't give a flying f*** about their appearance.
I just had lunch with said friend a hour or so ago. We talked. He said he is in a sexless marriage with a woman who looks after the kids, eats and sleeps. He has tried everything to help her - from offering counseling, to buying relationship books to having divorce papers drawn up. She just doesn't want to be romanced nor does she want sex. When he drew up divorce papers, she threatened to hurt herself so he backed off.
He has spoken to her since, apologised sincerely, offered counselling to fix things. Lets see what happens.
He asked me today: "badabing, am I ugly? Am I not in shape? I'm not thick or dense am I? Do smell bad? Have bad teeth? Am I a ganjoo? Do I not know how to sexually fulfil a woman? So why is it wrong for me to expect regular physical intimacy with my wife who I have kids with and for whom I provide for financially and emotionally?" I couldn't argue with him.
It's difficult to argue with someone when you agree with his stance.
It's difficult to argue with someone when you agree with his stance.
While nothing can justify what he did, he does have a point. She no longer satisfies his instinct, but she doesnt want a divorce either. What does she want then?
gemini the guys within your context are typical khi pakistani men, the vast majority of whom don't give a flying f*** about their appearance.
Thats not entirely true. Most guys I know exercise regularly, and are pretty conscious about how they look. Yes, I live in Karachi but the world is a global village now. Too many times guys think they are the shyt, but... never mind.
While nothing can justify what he did, he does have a point. She no longer satisfies his instinct, but she doesnt want a divorce either. What does she want then?
And that's precisely the question that he should have asked her and when all avenues failed then he should have found a way out of the marriage.
(I'm sorry but threats to harm herself are not excuses because a way around that can be found by involving people.)
To remain in a relationship and use such excuses as justifications is deplorable and immature.
