So one of my boys phoned me in a panic late last night. This guy has cheated on his wife at least a dozen times that I know of - everything from one night stands to year long affairs as well as prostitutes. He has 3 kids, married for over 10 years (married at 16 when his gori wife then gf got pregnant).
Apparently his wife finally broke his phone password and found all the incriminating evidence she needed - texts, Tinder, e-mails, pictures etc. She kicked him out and told his parents, who also turned their back on him. He called me in a panic as he had no where to go, so I went to see him and drove him to one of my rental properties that isn’t currently tenanted.
The problem I have is that my mates mum has contacted my mum as she has found out that I have put him up - she wants my mum to get me to turf him out. My mums been blowing up my phone telling me to do exactly that - going all religious on me, trying to shame me effectively to abandon my boy. How do I get my mum to back off with giving me the third degree - it’s essentially none of her business.
U know some wicked people. Must mean for an interesting life.
Anyhow.. tell ur mom ur helping the guy back to the straight path or something. It'll appease her religious sentiment and u might be encouraged to do more for ur friend.
Tell her you can't leave him on the street and islam teaches you to help the needy and technically this is between him and his wife and none of your business. Your friend won't be able to sort things out with his wife if he's living in the streets so you could also tell her that.
The friend in question and a few of my other boys are gonna meet at my work in a few hours - we gonna go out and hopefully try and find a solution to this headache. I liked the religious duty angle, may use that one. Thanks.
While cheating on his wife is not cool any level..but you're doing your humanity duty. I hope your friend realizes that..cheating on your spouse is not a good idea and make amends.
And this is a perfect example of when we all hope the courts award his wife (likely soon to be ex) and mother of his 3 children, the house, vacation home, both cars, 90% of his savings (though given his proclivities, he probably blew most of his money on his loose women), abundant spousal and child support, insha'Allah!
Badabing, tum bhi apni bhabhi ke achay mustaqbil ke liya dua maango. Khuda tum he naik dua ke liya ajar dayga. Ameen.
^ This! If he had 3 kids, I imagine he earned enough money to support them. It blows my mind that he can’t afford to stay in a hotel for a week or two while looking/renting an apartment. Its an insult to others to label a jerk like this as “needy”.
I agree with the posts about him being a tight git.
They married at 16 because she got pregnant and moved in with his parents. She gave up her education to raise the kid whilst he studied, went off to uni and subsequently became a chartered accountant. So he makes good money. They got their own place 6 years back. When he phoned me balling his eyes out I was hardly going to ask him to show me his bank/credit card statements or say "hey dude, empty your wallet". I saw a friend in need.
I'm actually sat in a pub typing this on my phone with him and some of our other mates trying to figure out a way to help him. Luckily I managed to speak to his younger brother who has agreed to put him up (he's newly married with a new born, so should be fun how his wife reacts).
I agree with the posts about him being a tight git.
They married at 16 because she got pregnant and moved in with his parents. She gave up her education to raise the kid whilst he studied, went off to uni and subsequently became a chartered accountant. So he makes good money. They got their own place 6 years back. When he phoned me balling his eyes out I was hardly going to ask him to show me his bank/credit card statements or say "hey dude, empty your wallet". I saw a friend in need.
I'm actually sat in a pub typing this on my phone with him and some of our other mates trying to figure out a way to help him. Luckily I managed to speak to his younger brother who has agreed to put him up (he's newly married with a new born, so should be fun how his wife reacts).
After reading that i essentially have NO sympathy for this guy. I believe you turned over a new leaf? how have you not left these weird friends of yours behind? Either way, this guy deserves what's coming to him. you keep trying to help him out and he'll never learn. he has to hit the curb, learn his lesson and come back up while absolving his sins. he wont learn any other way.
If you're a good friend, you'd let him find his correct path and learn from his mistakes. HE has to fix it with his wife, HE has to find a place to stay. The girl deserves a man who really cares for her at the very least.
damn it, i forgot my sympathy bucket at home. I'll try again tomorrow.
What's the problem here exactly? He was caught cheating. Now he faces the consequences. He's an adult surely he knows that there are always consequences. His wife will divorce him, probably take the kids and hopefully get everything he owns. The end.
I have been in similar situations excluding the caught part. My bosses were cheating, two of my friends were cheating, and it was torture living with the truth. They will involve you as alibi which is the harder part. One of my friend, who was cheating on his wife and was mistaken and thought his wife didn't knew, life flipped on him and his wife was the only person who was standing by him.
Sad Dilemma of today, Institution of Marriage and Monogamic Nobelity, burried.
While those holding onto fidelity, it isn't an easy road, but rewards are never ending.
You should not support your cheating friend, imagine if it was your daughter, in his wife's place. Decision should come easy.
May I ask why you keep mentioning that they got married at 16? Are we suppose to feel sorry for him? If he was old enough to get someone pregnant, he was old enough to take responsibility as well
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