Op claims he has changed and has left many of his old ways behind, so let's try to give him the benefit of the doubt then. Kaun kis k jaisa hai, only God knows best. They do say that subha ka bhoola jab shaam ko yaad aa jaye to usay bhoola Nahi kehtay.
OP, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that this thread was created in earnest and not in jest. That said, I suggest three things. Firstly, if you are going to provide support for your 'boy,' then you should try to guide him too. Otherwise he'll think that he can screw up in the same manner again and his pals will always be there to provide him with lodgings without any disapproval. So, try to guide him. At the same time I don't think it's all that bad if you were to tell him that your mom doesn't feel comfortable with you putting him up and is pressuring you to kick him out. After all, everybody has their majboorian. If he hears of your mum's disapproval, it may induce greater guilt and shame within him and bring about stronger introspection. Lastly, OP, you should be mindful of the sohbat or company that you keep especially now that you've reformed because the influences of wayward friends can over time seep into our being in such a subtle way that we don't realize it until much later. When those around us are doing wrong things, it can increase our chances of becoming immune to those actions, too.
and yes…on topic… you should help out ur friend… yeah he had not been good.. but never should u give up on frnds…
I have this drunk discoed girl.. she does all sorts of stuff..and my mum is also ki “chori ba tanne kathi bigad develi.. rnd bn n chodeli , mahro kehno maan biko sath chood pari.. etc etc.”..but… I never leave her.. u musnt… but atleast talk some sense into him… though u r not much of a sense believer urself but still people dont need to loose their roots and belongings for stupid cravings…u cant hide him forever and u wont tolerate him at his worst and trust me thats not worst I held like 20 poly bags on the vomiting face of that disco girl cz she had vodka… puked all over me carried her to the lounge while she had phone sex with four guys in public…and asked what was I thinking… and all i was thinking was"bhagwan is bar bacha lo" bcz everyone was ready to think we were “those” girls…
If u believe ur friend really needs his family then try making him apologize even gidgidana phenomenon…cz thats is only thing that will work.. if he thinks he can live alone be a ninja(and u might also think that way) but in that case.. really reallly talk a lot of sense into him…
garmi aaj ni toh kal utar jati hai..garmi ni utarti toh umar chad jati hai.. koi bhav nhi deta… being too practical man.. make him apologize.. what u end up doing later is totally ur and his business…but for once be puny.. act puny.. Baki then Kings can return to whichever way they prefer…
(baki I would prefer that he goes back to her and stay this time for her for a better life for both of them and work out any problem… )
A man is known by the company he keeps. These days with social media, internet, smartphones, etc it catches up pretty quickly, even to friends of such types of people.
You better prepare your life accordingly, since you're in the UK.
The stigma doesn't go away easily no matter how many times u do laundry....
I have been in similar situations excluding the caught part. My bosses were cheating, two of my friends were cheating, and it was torture living with the truth. They will involve you as alibi which is the harder part. One of my friend, who was cheating on his wife and was mistaken and thought his wife didn't knew, life flipped on him and his wife was the only person who was standing by him.
Sad Dilemma of today, Institution of Marriage and Monogamic Nobelity, burried.
While those holding onto fidelity, it isn't an easy road, but rewards are never ending.
You should not support your cheating friend, imagine if it was your daughter, in his wife's place. Decision should come easy.
You know how you are always talking about "British girls" being viciously money hungry when it comes to marriage and divorce......with so many of their men cheating do you blame them?
what I dont understand is that if the wife divorces the guy for any reason - she gets the kids;
if the guy divorces the woman - she gets the kids;
if the guy is caught messing about - she gets the kids......this society is screwed up man!
Been busy with sisters wedding and work stuff so haven't finished up this thread. My friend is living with his parents right now, they took him on condition he gets help for his drinking, returns to faith and seeks counselling. His wife won't divorce him - they have school age kids plus she was raised gypsy catholic before she converted.
My mum still goes on about my mates - the good guys are just too boring to hang out with, always have been. Their idea of fun is going to play pool followed by nandos and facebook updates about what pizza to get!
You know how you are always talking about "British girls" being viciously money hungry when it comes to marriage and divorce......with so many of their men cheating do you blame them?
His wife is nice but fat like obese fat. He's a good looking guy who attracts girls, can't blame him if i'm honest. Cheating is wrong though.
Hold on there, when did I say anything about brits ? God bless blighty’s!
While americans were done landing on moon, you were busy joining paklinks . . how come your join date is Jan 1 1970! i wont be surprised if you did it using iphone. :coolios: I always wondered what this emoji meant, figure i can use it here . .
'One of your boys'! I had a good laugh at that. Some of you have become too modern. What your friend did was evil. First and foremost do not disrespect your mother, she is obviously looking out for your character. Next, you guys need to make sure his wife and kids are looked after (groceries / rent etc). This is a higher priority than your friend. Next, you and your friends can all chip in together for a place for him to stay at temporarily. He needs to sort himself out spiritually and accept what he has done is wrong, VERY WRONG. He needs to seek forgiveness from both his GOD and his wife and kids.
His wife is nice but fat like obese fat. He's a good looking guy who attracts girls, can't blame him if i'm honest. Cheating is wrong though.
If his wifes weight is a problem, would it not be better to discuss it rather than have random affairs? Dul fateh muh!
Oh okay.
Then he's perfectly justified in his infidelity of course.
What was I thinking?!
I never said he was justified. However being a long term fattie whilst your husband is ripped, good looking and attracts women like bees to honey - it's only going to end one way.
I never said he was justified. However being a long term fattie whilst your husband is ripped, good looking and attracts women like bees to honey - it's only going to end one way.
There's nothing wrong with ending a relationship that is going nowhere or that no longer provides satisfaction. I have absolutely no issues with that.
It's how you do it that counts.
You don't just go off and start another relationship while your spouse believes that you are committed to them.
You don't disrespect someone like that. This shows your character.
You close a chapter before moving on.
There's nothing wrong with ending a relationship that is going nowhere or that no longer provides satisfaction. I have absolutely no issues with that.
It's how you do it that counts.
You don't just go off and start another relationship while your spouse believes that you are committed to them.
You don't disrespect someone like that. This shows your character.
You close a chapter before moving on.
I agree, but it's hard to say no when women throw themselves at you.
And most girls, and even women for that matter look better than guys anyway. Just saying.
gemini the guys within your context are typical khi pakistani men, the vast majority of whom don't give a flying f*** about their appearance.
I just had lunch with said friend a hour or so ago. We talked. He said he is in a sexless marriage with a woman who looks after the kids, eats and sleeps. He has tried everything to help her - from offering counseling, to buying relationship books to having divorce papers drawn up. She just doesn't want to be romanced nor does she want sex. When he drew up divorce papers, she threatened to hurt herself so he backed off.
He has spoken to her since, apologised sincerely, offered counselling to fix things. Lets see what happens.
He asked me today: "badabing, am I ugly? Am I not in shape? I'm not thick or dense am I? Do smell bad? Have bad teeth? Am I a ganjoo? Do I not know how to sexually fulfil a woman? So why is it wrong for me to expect regular physical intimacy with my wife who I have kids with and for whom I provide for financially and emotionally?" I couldn't argue with him.
when did I say anything about brits ? God bless blighty’s!
i wont be surprised if you did it using iphone. :coolios: I always wondered what this emoji meant, figure i can use it here . .