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^ haha, loved that
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I have said worse things than the guy in question. And have also heard worse things. Showing respect is fine and a must. But a little argument doesnt mean he doesnt show respect on a regular basis. A few harsh words dont mean people still dont love and respect one another.
Sadiyah – I didnt mean you. You didnt bring up divorce.
TNW – Dear Im wide awake. 
Afia, fayz and zalim me glad somebody agrees. 
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^ And so because you behave like that with your loved ones, it is justified that others do as well?
Not everyone tolerates a bitchy attitude from their spouse. I wouldn't tolerate it, and I dont expect my husband to either.
That is why, if you are in a bad mood, then the best thing to do is not talk to anyone. Write your feelings out, go take a run, go take a swim, go take a cold shower, whatever. But no need to hurt someone for no reason.
Haan, now we don't know the other side of the story. Of course, in the wife's eyes, everything horrible that was said came out of the hubby's mouth. I'm sure if we witnessed the actual act, we might see that the wife wasn't a perfect angel either in the argument.
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Funny that you mentioned etiquettes..even though you spelled it wrong.
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^^ "FUNNY THAT YOU HAVE NOTHING WORTHWHILE TO MENTION IN RESPONSE TO MY ARGUEMENT BUT HOW I SPELL"
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Your stance on the subject is absurd..what do you want me to add? :)
We agree that the guy doesn't have manners...a lot of us don't. ahem
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The relationship between siblings or parents-children cannot be compared to one between a husband and wife.
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Only in certain socio-economic-ethnic backgrounds…
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Agreed but you can predict how a person would be with their spouse based on his’her dealings with immediate family members. As a rule of thumb, if a person is disrespectful and showing anger to parents and siblings, he/she will be far worse with the poor spouse.
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Actually that isn't correct. I know of guys who have been not so nice sons but aren't really bad husbands and guys who totally suck up to their mothers/fathers/siblings and treat their wives like crap.
What I mean't was that you can get away with a lot of things when it comes to your siblings or parents, which in some households may even include, yelling, cursing, even hitting, but just cos u can do all that with ur family (with or without consequences) doesn;t mean u can do the same with a husband or wife. Its a complete;y different relation...one of the strongest yet most delicate relationships.
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Femme ji, it is as delicate as you make it. If people have their gaurds up at the slightest of arguments then they are not suitable for marriage. Jahan log rehtay hain, wahaN shor to hota hai.
I wouldn't put the guy's attitude as abuse..as some analysts have put it.. nor I would advocate such behavior, however, I do feel that there should be more patience for the sake of the bond they call marriage...People should hold off to their "Hey, I know my rights..I ain't gonna take that shyt" attitude.
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Most sane people react to the situation and the context. As people mature, their ability to discern the situation and provide a suitable response improves as well. Blind loyalty and obedience doesn't make a good relation to a spouse, parent nor a sibling -- it may not be very fair to you; and, neither does abrasive harsh behavior -- often times unfair to others. Sometimes you have to reason and sometimes you have to be firm, even yell. Trick is to learning to caliberate your responses to the people and context.
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Fayz I think the guys attitude is better classified as plain rude and chauvanistic.
And yes he did buy her icecream and stuff afterwards but couldn’t say sorry. What was that all about? Great that he did something nice for her but was it to make her feel better or himself?
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So you want an apology from the guy...
Lo ji mein Sorry kehna oday waloN..hor dusso? :-)
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I agree that arguments can take place with two people living under the same roof, but for Goodnes sake keep some standards. Whats with the threats of leaving her at her parents home? It's your wife for crying out loud, not a kindergarten kid that u r going to threaten like that!
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exactly, maybe it was out of the fear that if girl disclosed the incident to her family, brother, father, his @$$ would be badly kicked. if it had been to make her feel better AT ALL then he would have apologised and not save his selfish ego.
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May be he yelled because she takes long showers. i wont believe that a woman is capable of taking a "5-minute" shower as claimed, even you put a bullet into my head....
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hmm Someone is having Bad Day;)