she wont feel guilty because that time has passed. Al insist stuff happer to kids up to 16-17 at most then they just dont take it.
How ever girl is going to have great difficulty getting into romantic relationship.
It takes a lifetime of intense therapy and reconditioning for women not to feel guilty.
And most never reach that point.
Yes. It is likely that she will have lifetime issues with intimacy. Girls who suffer childhood sexual abuse and adolescent/early adult rape tend to equate pain and sex with love and either become promiscuous because they hate men and want to use them with their bodies, or hate their bodies and never become intimate.
If she's reported this to the police, please make sure she has a victim's advocate assigned to her in your city. They don't charge. Give her the number to RAINN and it will connect you to the nearest crisis center where they can help. She NEEDS an advocate on her side-- one that is versed in the system and can help her understand it. Since she reported she now has no control over the legal situation. If there is no concrete evidence that she was molested, there will likely be no conviction, nor will it even go to court.
She also needs to see a therapist skilled in trauma and rape therapy. These two things can make ALL the difference in the world. Please, please make sure that she has this support system. You're a wonderful friend for caring.
She is more than welcome to contact me if she would like. I cannot be there for her in person, but I can give her all the information that I can on how the system works and what steps will be taken. I'm not a psychologist (I'm a sociologist that has a fairly extensive amount of work on rape and violence against women), but I am trained in crisis care and I am more than willing to listen to her.
what are you talking about, you should read the newspaper frm these "western countries " and you will see how many of these types of casues are reported each day.
If these cases are not being reported in Pakistan......it does not mean that it never happens there.....The gist of my post was that if it happens in western countries then wifes kick the perverts butt and he is out in the open......Paki wifes needs all a lot of thinking before they take such step......if you dig your head deep underground, it does'nt mean that you are safe.
sadzzz, yes maybe she was abused too is perhaps the only reason that makes a bit of sense for her to have tolerated this but even then, unless she was physically unable to do so I think she would have tried to get her daughter out of that situation. but being afraid of how she will raise the children? Think about it, how were her children being raised thus far...hmmm, not anything normal. She could have reported him, the government would help such families. She could go out there and get a job, in a store or a MacDonalds if she wasn't qualified. But somehow, I just can't seem to understand what else stopped her.
true. I know.. its screwed but i have heard mothers of daughters who have been sexually abused, saying this... that they feared. Im thinking, that these women themselves arent sane.. there are so many women out there who fear being alone and hence end up allowing such abuse to take place in their homes... they fear the society.. but cannot comprehend that the society and justice system will help them.. instead they let the torture happen and become an associate...
its one thing that a mother can go out and get a job, and another actually trying or even coprehending that one can...
the women may have been abused to a point where she felt she was incapable of surviving herself.. incapable of doing anything. There are men out there who will make sure their wife is dependant on them forever..