I’ve always pictured myself as a mom but for some odd reason I feel myself being pulled in the direction of adoption. This isnt to say I dont want to ever be pregnant. But ever since I was old enough to think about having kids, Ive felt the need to adopt children and they dont necessarily have to be desi…they could be Pakistani, Indian, Chinese, Hungarian, Indonesian, Alaskan, etc. I could have my very own Rainbow Coalition!
My question to all of you is, how do desies in general feel about adopted children? Will I be setting them up for failure if I bring them up in a desi household but not be accepted by desi culture? Is it really wrong to adopt in Islam? Do any of you have any experiences you could share?
dude she will look differnt.
I may get somalian wife though. Very pretty girls. I swear.
I go to somalian mosque dude. you have no idea how pretty they are.
u go to mosque and u luk @ the ladies.....
rnt u suppose to lower ur gaze?
i dont mind adopting.....i would adopt a gal or a boy who ever is in a need of a home.....would rather adopt not so gud luking baby than a very beautiful....
cuz i believe u can make any one beautiful if you know how to
race/colour doesnt really matter to me... and i dont think they'll have hard time adjusting and getting accepted by other desis..... cuz they'll be raised as desi rit?
yeah sara SM ka kasoor hy.
lol
mera dehan larkioon ki taraf laga dia
he is bad influence.
yes PS I would love to adapt a girl from troubled area.
My bother all have sons. Chance are I will too. No one in my family have adapted any one even they could have done that,
I am going to set an example.
u go to mosque and u luk @ the ladies.....
rnt u suppose to lower ur gaze?
i dont mind adopting.....i would adopt a gal or a boy who ever is in a need of a home.....would rather adopt not so gud luking baby than a very beautiful....
cuz i believe u can make any one beautiful if you know how to
race/colour doesnt really matter to me... and i dont think they'll have hard time adjusting and getting accepted by other desis..... cuz they'll be raised as desi rit?
But would you tell your child he/she is adopted? At what age? And do you feel that would cause problems for them in life?
yeah sara SM ka kasoor hy.
lol
mera dehan larkioon ki taraf laga dia
he is bad influence.
yes PS I would love to adapt a girl from troubled area.
My bother all have sons. Chance are I will too. No one in my family have adapted any one even they could have done that,
I am going to set an example.
Would your child be desi? Or would you adopt a child outside of your culture?
PS I know this women, she use to run adoption agency or some thing.
You need to speak to some one like her. Who has seen that all for years.
I always talk to her. Since I konw in pakistan we dont have secure system for adopting children.
PM, that would be helpful! I am really interested in adoption.
Im also wondering if there are couples on GS who have adopted? Someone who can shed some light on this?
once you are married and ready. let me know. If she is still there then I have her no for you.
Very nice woman.
There is so much to adoption that you would be surprised.
Would your child be desi? Or would you adopt a child outside of your culture?
I will be speaking urdu at home. Not too much of an angreez. If thats what you are asking.
They will be muslim. They should not have problem going to pakistan.
I think its based on children growing up to be adult and not really 'Mahram' to parents. There is no value of "Munh Bola' Rishta in the religion. Someone need to check that. Also If I am correct, an actor from Hollywood married to his adopted daughter after his wife died.
Now adopting and helping unfortunate kids to be good citizens and growing up to be good people with resources can be done without actually bringing them up in your house or perhaps bringing them up to a certain age.
and an adopted child has to be told and as early as its realistic. both from an islamic and a psychological perspective. you can not pass adopted kids as biological kids from a religious perspective, and from a psychological perspective, not telling the kids is a big lie and becomes a huge trust issue when it comes out in the open.
I know someone who is adopted. The parents were unable to have kids and hence they resorted to adopting. She was never told about her adoption but she had her doubts. Finally, figured it out at age 15 and decided to meet her maternal mother. Accordingly, she went to Pakistan to study and kept looking for her family. Found them… met them… kept meeting till she came back. Still haven’t talked to her “parents” about it but that’s how she has decided to move on.
Adopting a kid is a huge responsibility, you’ve to understand child’s cultural, racial and linguistic heritage, and the religious values of the birth parents, if they vary. Its not all fun and games.
