A Confusing situation

[Nightingale]

Re: A Confusing situation

@Reha

Um, I don’t see why she should be confused.

There is a very simple answer to all of this…since he won’t tell her what’s going on…he has made it ONLY his own problem.

So let HIM deal with HIS problems and tell your friend to move on.

@Hulahoop_Queen

i say she should consider other proposals. this guy may have his best intentions, but it is difficult to stand against your parents. i personally think he should return home and not quarrel with his parents. InshAllah your friend will find someone who will take good care of her and her kid.

This reminds me another statement I was told that came from him. In the last phone call, she even asked him to back off if he cannot manage and go back to home, she won’t mind and won’t create any kind of problem for him but the guy said “I am doing this for MYSELF not for YOU, I am not even in contact with you, it is you who call me and ask what’s going on. My happiness is supposed to be important for my parents”

To me, this is kind of weird statement. I mean what would he do if my friend gets another proposal, how would he know what’s going on at her side? What’s the point of doing all this then? I asked her to stay calm and don’t try to catch him. If he is sincere then he will call you meanwhile if someone else brings proposal then let your parents proceed that one.

@CM

Yeah no. Any guy who does this for some random chick over the net is not mentally stable.

The guy seems clever. He gave many statements to her that she finds solid. For instance; “I believe I will be happy with you because you have gone through a bad experience and obviously you will be careful with your second husband in the future… I don’t want any typical wife, I need a mature and sensible lady who would be able to make me feel comfortable with her…., I want to change the society’s mind set about the divorced ladies…. bla bla..

@Keyboard_Stoker

Hey does your friend live in Pakistan?

If in the west, maybe she should go for a man of non-pakistan origin. Would her parents mind? She is divorced and let’s be honest here, that significantly lowers the chances of a good proposal.

Unfortunately we both are in pakistan. I have no idea what would her parents think in case she finds some guy having other origin. Overall they are ready to accept her choice but since they are very much concerned about her future so definitely they will do some investigation before doing anything further no matter how much she is willing.