As much as I detest coming to Life1, with all the mushiness and stuff I guess I’m left no choice
Achaw, Coming to the subject. I’ve got an almost to be 3 yr old girl, and she’s great and all that. BUT! Yesterday when she was at the park, she met this little one of her size and made friends while doing swinging or sliding. When it was time for the other kid to go home, Sarah ran and yelled hughug
So as much as I told her in hush hush voice, Sarah u can’t hug ppl outside of the home. Okay?! She didn’t get it She likes to hug. Especially when its time to say bye bye to someone her age that she has been playing with.
Now how can I tell her not to hug strangers? Should I be concerned, will she understand better when she grows up, or should I be all perplexed about it right from the begining? Grrr as much as I’m not the mushy mama, she’s got all the mushiness in her
So feller mama bears and Papa bears or others that know any better, pweej help!
I think it's okay, let her do what feels natural right now. When she's a bit older 3-4 she'll have a better understanding. I really believe in letting kids do what comes naturally to them, and when it's affection, don't stifle her :)
Erm, just to clarify, she was hugging a child her own age?
Whats wrong with that? Shes socialising, she doesn't understand the boundaries of personal space and who not to show affection to as of yet as shes only 2.5 years of age. She doesnt need to understand this yet, shes far too young. She did not see it as hugging, she was playing, her way of communicating.
I dont think there is a reason for concern if she is hugging children her own age or nearabouts, 'strange' adults yes, children no. However, im not a parent.
^yeahmon! The mother was a south indian person, she didn’t like it, gave me little one not a good look:barbie:
Catty thanks that helps! The thing is when she hugs another toddler, they always end up falling on the ground
She knocked the little one down, though he was four, her height and a bit slimmer than her
She’s tall for her age masha Allah. I don’t mind her expressing herself. Except I get horrified at images she being known as “ewwww don’t hug me!” person at school, once she starts going. Maybe I shud scare her of germs and stuff
Another horrible thought that entered my mind is that some kids have hair bugs, I don’t want her to get infested
You cannot possible protect her from everything! I work with children and I swear more than 25 % have Head Lice, you just remind them how important nice clean hair is.
So what if shes the nice princess who goes around hugging people, i'd rather teach a social child than a stuck up snobby 'my mum says your a tramp' child.
DB, have you gone mad? hugging is healthy. hugging is good. hugging is so cute. I used to like hugging so much as a baby and look at me how great admirer of hugging I’m now
Let her hug all she wants. Human touch is good for babies/kids.
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Actually, come to think of it, it’s good for adults too
Miss Mobi, yeah I meant exactly dem creepy bugs. I remember my lil sister used to go to a daycare and how she caught some from the other desi kids :halo:
Then our mom had all of us sitting in the bath tub (even though my bro and I were not infested), instructing us to keep our eyes closely shut as she applied this shampoo on us which made our hair rock hard! It was really stingy crap! I remember how my poor little goldy locks sister was bawling her eyes out
Okay so then I guess fine let her hug and wrestle other kids down to the ground. lol. Now that I’m thinking of it perhaps the other mom felt threatened by my 2.5 yr old Shala (thats what she calls herself). Since she knocked down a kid 2 yrs older than her
Anyway Romi Unki bunki, u r ryte. I read that article lOOOOOOooooong ago perhaps when I was 10 myself As long as she can differenciate later on ‘no hugs for strangers allowed’ I’d be fine! I guess I got scared cuz I’d not want her growing up thiking “everyone in the world are perfect angels” Cuz I know they are not especially other adults.
btw, none of u are parents that are giving me this advice but thanks anyway flowers
If she does get head lice, use tea tree shampoo and conditioner, in fact just the conditioner on its own and comb through with a very fine comb before washing.
I'v worked with kids for 9 years, a psychology degree specialising in child development and training to be a play therapy worker, does it matter that i dont have one of my own?
WHAAAAAAAAAAAAT! Naozobilla astaghfirullah that she gets any to begin with! Thats it! No more playing with other desi kids allowed especially suspicious looking ones or those that don’t smell good and reek of spices
hehe I’m sucha racist
(ok nvm that) I’m next time stealing a x-ray glance into their heads next time :halo:
^U can have her and Unki Rumi can be her God Father :halo:
Oh and yeah sweetheart it matters alot that if u tell first hand trying to apply those text book solutions on the kid. It’s a totally different dimention sometimes
Waaaaaaaaaaaaaa…where did other mothers/papas run away when I need their help! Otherwise I’m getting the Social services to come here due to Miss Mobi and her expert analyses
DB, hugging strangers shows confidence, self-assurance, and good nature/friendliness. There is nothing wrong with that. Strangers, people are good by nature and environment--on majority basis. You should not let the minority/occasional cases shape your view of the world or people. Most of the strangers when hugged won't follow you home with a butcher knife in hand.
^No worries, I keep a set of my own knives I don’t need theirs. But do tell what brand do u use? Also, I used to share the same perspective as u have of the world. Until one day it all came tumbling down
humpf So shud I be concerned when she also tries to kiss the 'story telling' girl on treehouse chanel (t.v) when they are saying "Bub bye" Miss Mobi and Unki ROmi?
I guess I’m left no choice 
She likes to hug. Especially when its time to say bye bye to someone her age that she has been playing with.
It was really stingy crap! I remember how my poor little goldy locks sister was bawling her eyes out 
especially other adults.
You’d think I’m into knives and not my bare hands. 