A choice

[Mirch]

@Niksik

clearing throat

Meaningful relationships are very important in life. Living around people who don’t like you can be hurtful and stressful. You also are subjected to bad’duas. Our life’s goal should be to collect blessings, especially from people who are important in our lives. We should at least try.

Having said that, money is important, for I can’t exchange a relationship for food and clothing. When you have money, you have less burden if you are on the right track and if your means of earning are halal. When you have money you can help more people and earn blessings.

Muslims in the earlier years spent their entire day learning their deen and then spreading it. These days to even earn a comfortable living one has to spend a good amount of their time at work. However, our resources are greater and we can therefore practice our religion more effectively.

So Sara, I realy cannot choose one of the two for my answer lies somewhere in between :hinna:

Talian. Good speech. That is what I said earlier.
To your point of spending a good amount of time to earn good living. I have been saying all along that if you do not forget Allah and keep doing tasbeeh while you work, that time you spend at work will be counted as abadat.
Contrary to what some people want you to believe that ebadat is name of sitting in one corner and doing tasbeeh or it is praying nafil on musalah all the time , ebat is name of many other things and zikr/dikr/tasbeeh of Allah even if you are busy doing something else is also ebadaat. If we allcould make this a habit we will be doing that tasbeeh all the time and that will protect us from doing bad things , because no one can do bad thing and could be doing tasbeeh at the same time. This tasbeeh will make a 100 percent worldly activity an ebadat. Try it and you will see how your life will be full of blessings of Allah.