he likes that he is called names
he likes that he evaluates the relationship
he wants to have it both ways - selfish and sacrificial in disappointment, in anger, and acts as a god
he takes a pure relationship as a time passing formality
he is a failure in recognizing the honesty and the loyalty offered to him
he is good at only one thing - keeping silent
which is understandable as his way to not confront his own selfish being
and is not understandable, if he is true to his word an God fearing, even though he was complemented on that
maybe that is what he wanted, only complements
and he regresses back into his shell of falsehood, by a simple statement ‘i did not lie’ and anything that will make him appear nice for all his flaws - inability to realize that he can and he must learn to love honestly and protect it by standing by that woman who he seriously intented to marry.
may he find some ‘doll’ somewhere that suits him and his family.
please be ware of such type of men, unless and until they are able to admit that they were wrong and they will with all their heart and soul make it all up
without asking you to compromise.
a woman’s disappointment and anger in her non silence maybe and is seen as her lack of self respect, in ability to cope with something that happens to everyone or her personal stubornness.
life is not a movie. it must be lived without regret, as we only get it once.
no room for delibrate mistakes, if intentions were and are honest.
so NO, it is her demand and right to question anything unjust done to her, in word and in deed, especially by someone she so trusted in the first place.
One can keep asking but a guy like this won't answer the questions, instead put blame on you (girl). If it was me, then I'd say such man is not worth my time, energy, emotions, or anything else; therefore I'd try to ignore such a guy, move forward then keep asking him for answers and give him a chance to betray or insult me. If a guy cannot respect you as you, then he is not worth you.
woho u r really angry arent u? well i can only suggest u to use this time praying 2 god who wl give u patience and the strength to cope up with yr heartbreak...i can kind of understand y u r making all these topics...u r obviously very hurt and want to question y it happened 2 u or perhaps express yr emotions 2....thats fine. But do try giving some time 2 yrself alone and pray 2 god and u wl c how that really helps u.
the only thing he can do is perhaps save his trust, soon, by returning and honoring his proposal.
One can keep asking but a guy like this won't answer the questions, instead put blame on you (girl). If it was me, then I'd say such man is not worth my time, energy, emotions, or anything else; therefore I'd try to ignore such a guy, move forward then keep asking him for answers and give him a chance to betray or insult me. If a guy cannot respect you as you, then he is not worth you.
Thanks, Maham S.
i do offer prayers like prayers like no one knows about nor ever saw.
my Maker knows that.
no, i do not want anything for myself. it hurts me as i am to expose him like this.
i am amazed not one of his friends can talk sense into him.
but i do want it to make sense for him. so that he can has his ego fed to its utmost fill.
i know that even then he wont be satiated, as he cannot make his decisions himself. and i am trying to be there for him, even though he has done his best to do full injustice to me.
if nothing else, i have peace in my heart with that prayers as i make sense of his nonsense behavior.
unless, unless, he comes back and proves it other wise and do that fast, following his heart and what Allah destined for him, now or years later.
woho u r really angry arent u? well i can only suggest u to use this time praying 2 god who wl give u patience and the strength to cope up with yr heartbreak...i can kind of understand y u r making all these topics...u r obviously very hurt and want to question y it happened 2 u or perhaps express yr emotions 2....thats fine. But do try giving some time 2 yrself alone and pray 2 god and u wl c how that really helps u.
^ have u tried talking to him abt all this? r u in contact with him?
i just want to tell u i didnt mean 2 offend u when i said u shud say yr prayers n all...ofcourse its between u and Allah but i was only telling u cuz i know one finds peace when shares their problems with the almighty.
he likes that he is called names
he likes that he evaluates the relationship
he wants to have it both ways - selfish and sacrificial in disappointment, in anger, and acts as a god
he takes a pure relationship as a time passing formality
he is a failure in recognizing the honesty and the loyalty offered to him
he is good at only one thing - keeping silent
comments?
All da post ive seen from you so far are filled with hatred towards men...wtf yo....if u had bad experience in a realtionship/marriage, that doesn't mean that all men are like dat.
first of all, I don't believe in love before marriage!!! like another poster has said to only claim once you are married to him.
and dushi yaar..if it was me ...even if he returns honoring his proposal, i wouldn't accept it just because he has played with my emotion, broken my trust and proved his cowardness....If he could leave me now, then he is capable for leaving me at any point in life, in times of hardships and when i need him the most....A man who can't stand by his word is not worth my time and energy.
please stop waiting for him to come back!!!
MOVE ON BABE!! i know it's hard, but it has to be done.
he has already betrayed and insulted me. the only thing he can do is perhaps save his trust, soon, by returning and honoring his proposal.
quote=farishta2;4931882]first of all,** I don't believe in love before marriage!!!** like another poster has said to only claim once you are married to him.
and dushi yaar..if it was me ...even if he returns honoring his proposal, i wouldn't accept it just because he has played with my emotion, broken my trust and proved his cowardness....If he could leave me now, then he is capable for leaving me at any point in life, in times of hardships and when i need him the most....A man who can't stand by his word is not worth my time and energy.
please stop waiting for him to come back!!!
MOVE ON BABE!! i know it's hard, but it has to be done.
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