Does it necessarily have to be about what she can handle or put up with?
This is more about women who choose not to stay in a marriage rather than those who do because they don't have much choice..
If she chooses to leave, well, good on her. Only she would know why she left, how can I comment on what she had in mind and what her circumstances were?
LOL Deeba I am sorry if I am not giving you the required material to build your case on, but seriously only a complete butt-head would come in and issue a comprehensive decisive statement about something he doesn't have a clue about. You can't call her an idiot and you can't call her a martyr. You can just hope that she took the right step and that she finds peace in whatever decision she made. Problems arise when too many 'concerned' people jump into a relationship matter and issue conclusive statements and advice without knowing half of what the case is about. This is exactly what you see in Life1 everyday, the favourite 'dump him he is a loser' kind of wisdom that is passed around like candy. A woman's worst enemy is another woman.
^I'm not trying to 'build a case', I'm just gauging people's opinions.. Isn't that the point of a forum?
Why are some male posters so obsessed with people having 'agendas'.. (and I don't mean just here, I mean calling female posters trolls or just generally being rude when they post problems and so on.. it's been happening a lot lately to some of the other girls.. snide negative remarks when they themselves aren't hurting anyone)..
^I'm not trying to 'build a case', I'm just gauging people's opinions.. Isn't that the point of a forum?
Why are some male posters so obsessed with people having 'agendas'.. (and I don't mean just here, I mean calling female posters trolls or just generally being rude when they post problems and so on.. it's been happening a lot lately to some of the other girls.. snide negative remarks when they themselves aren't hurting anyone)..
And why are some female posters so obsessed with some male posters having 'agendas' to insult these other girls and prove/suggest that they are trolls? Let the poor blokes live will ya?
Personally, I use my foul and uncouth mannerisms to be more appealing and desirable in general. It adds to my manly charms. No particular agenda there.
Why are some male posters so obsessed with people having 'agendas'.. (and I don't mean just here, I mean calling female posters trolls or just generally being rude when they post problems and so on.. it's been happening a lot lately to some of the other girls.. snide negative remarks when they themselves aren't hurting anyone)..
first you should find out what is the reason for him to cheat you, if there are some drawbacks in you,then try to remove that and try to bring him back because respect in society is with husband and also good for children but if you are not at mistake and all your tries fail then you must not stay with him.
May GOd bless you.
Amazing how that multinick just showed up randomly eh?
I've never used a multi (and besides how could my multi be online at the same time as me?).. Ask the mods to check if you don't believe me.. Some ppl need to calm down with the paranoia.. Every new poster must be multi or a troll!!
Ok.. some examples..
a one-night stand: not worth breaking up a marriage, but a beating is in need for him.
a long affair with a single woman and feelings for her: **Yup divorce.
**serial cheating but with no feelings involved: **Again kick him out and take all his money
**hitting his wife: Send him to his mamma's home the first time and next time send him the papers
being verbally abusive but not physically violent: I'd chop some stuff off with my very own beautiful words and if he doesn't learn than leave him
drink/drugs/gambling: For sure, try to help him through any of the three. What else is a family for, when you can help a loved one at the lowest stage in their life?
Whether she would be an idiot, helpless, more tolerant or a more prudent person depends on quite many factors, there could be quite a few variables in this situation. Mostly how serious that something else serious is, how emotionally or otherwise both partners have invested in the relationship, what was the reason behind what the guy did and what he is willing to do to assure her that he would sort things out.
I mean if she walked in on him while he is handcuffed to the headboard of their bed, wearing crotchless leather pants and being whipped on the arse with wet celery by the neighbour's wife, yeh she ought to walk out on the guy. If it is something less severe and the situation is more complicated, I reckon they could discuss things over and consider parting ways as a serious possibility. Again, too many variables.
The Manimal speaketh the truth!
These situations are so complex, plus not knowing the dynamics of ones relationships, who are we to say what one should/should not do? I can say for certain that if it's a physically abusive relationship, then yes leaving should be seriously considered. Although I've known of couples who have stayed through that as well (and yes children were involved)
Depends on the situation, it's not all black and white. There are people in the world who have hearts big enough to forgive serious offenses and there are others who consider even a glance towards some one else unforgivable.
I guess all that depends on the circumstances, the couple's dynamics and the individual's expectations so I will try not to gauge one's goodness/being better especially when I am just a bystander and have no clue what's going on between the two/three people involved.
