**If a guy cheats or does something else serious and she chooses to stay with him does that make her a better wife than one who leaves?
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Does your answer change according to whether they have kids or do you think she should stay or walk out regardless? Or wait and see if he changes and if so how long is reasonable.. weeks, months or years?
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I thi k it would be a foolish wife or a helpless wife who'd still stay, not a better wife.
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She might think she's a good wife but not extend it to everyone else?
Like, god forbid, if I were in that situation and I stayed.....I would consider myself a good wife. but if another person chose to leave a marriage where something similar happened, I wouldn't necessarily think that they were being a bad spouse.
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It depends on how much u love him......if u can leave him easily then its ok.
But it si going to make ur life more miserable without him then one should live with her husband.
in relation what matters is love thats wt i think.
Islam me to aurat ko khula lene ka haq hai to koi us aurat ko bura nahi keh sakta ye haq Allah ta'ala ne us aurat ko dia hai.
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Makes her a bonafide idiot.
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Hi CM 
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Dependent or brainwashed or practical depending on the individual situation. Not better.
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And a good morning to you.
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And to u as well. Sorry for derailing the thread :(
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Phew. Here i thought you were saying Hi because you were gonna give me points for calling an idiot an idiot :p
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I have a bad rep I see. 
its been ages since I warned anyone. And it’s not like anyone listens anyway. 
Khair, back to the topic. Yeah, she’d be an idiot to stay, but some situations are such where there’s no other way out. Calling her a better wife than the one who chose to leave the marriage would be a perspective.
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I was going to say she was an idiot but I thought I would get hateful responses..
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I have nothing to say. Except for these words.
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I wish there was a way to shower u with positive infractions!!
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Whether she would be an idiot, helpless, more tolerant or a more prudent person depends on quite many factors, there could be quite a few variables in this situation. Mostly how serious that something else serious is, how emotionally or otherwise both partners have invested in the relationship, what was the reason behind what the guy did and what he is willing to do to assure her that he would sort things out.
I mean if she walked in on him while he is handcuffed to the headboard of their bed, wearing crotchless leather pants and being whipped on the arse with wet celery by the neighbour's wife, yeh she ought to walk out on the guy. If it is something less severe and the situation is more complicated, I reckon they could discuss things over and consider parting ways as a serious possibility. Again, too many variables.
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Whether she would be an idiot, helpless, more tolerant or a more prudent person depends on quite many factors, there could be quite a few variables in this situation. Mostly how serious that something else serious is, how emotionally or otherwise both partners have invested in the relationship, what was the reason behind what the guy did and what he is willing to do to assure her that he would sort things out.
I mean if she walked in on him while he is handcuffed to the headboard of their bed, wearing crotchless leather pants and being whipped on the arse with wet celery by the neighbour's wife, yeh she ought to walk out on the guy. If it is something less severe and the situation is more complicated, I reckon they could discuss things over and consider parting ways as a serious possibility. Again, too many variables.
LOL
Quite an imagination you have there o.O
and thats a tad extreme no?
Should she walk out on him if he suggested that he wanted that? and not cheat with another person?
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Ok.. some examples.. a one-night stand, a long affair with a single woman and feelings for her, serial cheating but with no feelings involved, hitting his wife, being verbally abusive but not physically violent, drink/drugs/gambling..
In which of those situations should a wife stick around (if at all)? Would a wife who walked out in those situations without waiting be considered not doing her bit? Should we have greater respect for those who choose to stay permanently in those situations as 'martyrs'?
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Again, every person (be that a man or a woman) has a different threshold for taking and tolerating abuse and BS (and even GS). You can't really set a general benchmark or make umbrella statements based on what your threshold is and what set of ideas you follow. Like being stuck with a crap job, some will take a lot of BS and verbal abuse before they decide to throw in the towel, while some will hang on to it knowing they need to make the ends meet. While some will explode some will not. Different people handle things differently, depending on what situation, stage in life and state of mind they are in. I can't sit here and decide which one is a martyr and which one is an idiot.
Having said that, believing what I believe and knowing as much as I would know about any random couple's situation and specific dynamics of their relationship - I'd say she should leave him if he is cheating on her or is physically abusive. Verbal abuse, drug and gambling addictions can all be sorted out. If I were to advise, I wouldn't suggest staying in a relationship just for the sake of staying in a relationship, unless you believe whatever is screwed in the relationship can be unscrewed and things can work out. And that is something only she would know.
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^ Couldn't have said it better myself.
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What if she can handle it but chooses to leave?
Does it necessarily have to be about what she can handle or put up with?
This is more about women who choose not to stay in a marriage rather than those who do because they don't have much choice..