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can you make a better attempt at your spelling? jeez.
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So much is expected of sons in our society and because of that girls also suffer. I have been receiving many proposals of guys who had marriagable sisters and it was known from the rishta aunties that the mothers were basically looking for the proposals of their daughters and in the meantime are just showing their sons that they are also looking for them. Many marriagable guys are unable to get married because of their responsibilities (mainly sisters) since their fathers are either retired or not there anymore.
It might be difficult for guys (and girls) to control their physical desires in the West but it is not very difficult in a conversative society like Arab countries. I am not saying that ALL guys and girls here are shareef. But the percentage of guys involved in intimate relations is very low. For girls, it is absoloutely not difficult since the environment provided to us by our parents is such that which doesn't allow us to be alone with the opposite gender. Boyfriend girlfriend relationship is seen but the girls and guys usually keep themselves in their limits. Pakistani guys don't **easily **find a Pakistani girl to have physical relationships and the frustrated ones end up being with other nationalities like Filipinos.
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So much is expected of sons in our society and because of that girls also suffer. I have been receiving many proposals of guys who had marriagable sisters and it was known from the rishta aunties that the mothers were basically looking for the proposals of their daughters and in the meantime are just showing their sons that they are also looking for them. Many marriagable guys are unable to get married because of their responsibilities (mainly sisters) since their fathers are either retired or not there anymore.
It might be difficult for guys (and girls) to control their physical desires in the West but it is not very difficult in a conversative society like Arab countries. I am not saying that ALL guys and girls here are shareef. But the percentage of guys involved in intimate relations is very low. For girls, it is absoloutely not difficult since the environment provided to us by our parents is such that which doesn't allow us to be alone with the opposite gender. Boyfriend girlfriend relationship is seen but the girls and guys usually keep themselves in their limits. Pakistani guys don't **easily **find a Pakistani girl to have physical relationships and the frustrated ones end up being with other nationalities like Filipinos.
I mean people def aren't super shareef here or anything but a lot of my friends that ARE in the mid to late 20's / early 30's are still single and haven't done anything intimate with anyone. But they do express how frustrated they are in their situation. Even if you're from a conservative environment, sooner or later, hormones take over. The fact that you CAN'T/DON'T engage in such behavior outside of marriage just makes that even more difficult. You're stuck with those feelings until your parents decide you're settled enough/mature enough/the guy or girl that came for your hand is "qualified" enough. I don't think very many desi parents take the actual physical needs of their kids into account. Your eligibility depends on how settled/worthy/old/pretty your are, not on the fact that you need to get married for other reasons as well. Not everyone's looking for a sugar daddy/momma. Some people really DO just want a companion and it sucks when that desire takes a backseat for a lot of material things that OTHER people care about.
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it’s definitely funny seeing how whipped they are by their mommas but then incredibely sad at the same time. Especially when they find a girl they like but don’t have the guts to stand up to ammi-jaan who has some weird ott reason for disliking her.
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Maybe the girls are not marriageable for those 40 year olds?
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Maybe the girls are not marriageable for those 40 year olds?
i think at the age of 40 you're more than capable of making your own life decisions, barring some exceptions. At the same time, the girls that these guys are interested in AREN'T 20 something girls; most of the time, they're educated, extremely mature, independent (that might be the problem) females. If 2 mature adults who are of decent age decide that they are "marriageable" than why are the mothers creating a fuss? You might be right, but with one case in particular that i know of, that's not what was going on.
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it's definitely funny seeing how whipped they are by their mommas but then incredibely sad at the same time. Especially when they find a girl they like but don't have the guts to stand up to ammi-jaan who has some weird ott reason for disliking her.
Our family knew a man like that once. It was really sad. Every time he met someone that he liked and she mutually like him back, his mom created a fuss and it was over.
So sad. Soooo sad.