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a few others seem to be very picky, and have wound up in a situation just like older girls, older they get the options get decreased but their expectations dont etc etc
This is very true. When they do finally get married, it's because they feel it's their last chance to have children .... and they usually go for a very young girl. Seen it time and time again.
This is not just for Pakistanis ... but majority of men (white, arab, etc.) out there who are in their 40s.
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yep, because if you are that picky and there are so few eligible single women out there in your age group, either you change expectations or change age group.
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mard aur ghora kabhy borhy naheen hoty.. :nono:
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So, why are there so many 40 yr olds who are single out there?
Were they just not good enough to get married all these years?
The equivalent of a 35 yr old unmarried woman, if you will?
Hmm?
They kept waiting for "PyariCgudia".
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well i guess. there was this poor 40 yr old guy who worked for my dad. he was a simpleton, and my dad tried so hard to help him find a wife - he finally had to go back to Pakistan and found someone.
His mom made him work his butt off in America, send all his money home while he lived like a pauper, and then he had to get all his sisters married off before he could be married.
I never understood that policy.
This is Policy of care and honor the family.
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maybe this picture explain it better then words:
Heh,heh.. no fair firenze. Plenty of girls come abroad through the GRE/GMAT, uni, visa route as well. :p
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haha, right on firenze
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really?
Yeah we had 2 people we know of in the community. The one that I know of well is the case of a guy whose mother supposedly has been looking since he was in his mid 20's. But alas! She's never found one good enough. I know things progressed to the boy and girl tlaking a couple of times but it was really creepy because as soon as the mom realized that the boy was starting to fall for the girl, she'd find some way to be a complete and total b*(@$ and ruin the rishta. Even though SHE had initially approached the girl and it was arranged. I think she wants him to marry a cousin in the family (who's a lot younger and lives in Pak) but he's refusing so this is her sick way to convince him? Iono, all I know is homeboy is in his late 30's and has been on the verge of getting engaged 1x for sure...but it's been a bust. Finally we all just gave up and now no family in the community is willing to point any good girls in their direction.
Do these mens parents not think? A man IMO really needs marriage in his twenties and thirties. By the time he hits forty he has already became used to bachelor life and is physical needs begin to diminish.
if it is due to responsibilities then the guy can still find somebody. However I am very concerned about those men that choose not get married and a I know of several acquaints instant acquaintances. I think perhaps they dont have need to get married.
tbh I don't think very few parents (of either girl or boy) think like that. I think because my mom and a few of my friends' moms were married SO early that they feel robbed of their youth. My mom wanted to be a dr but wasn't able to coming from a conservative family where being 22 and single was the end of the world. So to compensate for that, they've wanted us to "get an education" and "be established" before getting us married. However, they tend to OVERCOMPENSATE a lot of the time and don't understand that besides the whole "oh yeah you gotta have kids" part there IS that desire to be intimate. At the risk of sounding extremely sexually frustrated, it sucks when you have to put THAT part of your life on hold because you HAVE to be a certain age/certain profession/make certain amounts of $$$
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I don't know. I doubt a lot of these 40 yr olds are truly virgins. I'm in my late 20's and I don't know how much longer I can last, but I'm trying to hold on at this point. I can only imagine that a guy would have had serious issues by 40 without having some intimacy. This doesn't include that small portion of the population who has some psychiatric or medical issue and they just have low libido's.
I figure desi families get THIS much. They might figure a girl in her late 20's or 30's is ok being a virgin, cuz it's expected that we're all holy Mary's, but desis tend to accept that desi men are generally a raunchy group.
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the whole virgin thing, I dont think its just desis. Its in other cultures too where girls cant move out until they are married and remain virgins... ive had two ethnic friends (greek) late in their 30's, early 40's who were living with their parents and had had no intimate relationship...
but since we're on a desi site... theres no point in discussing that :)
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I don't know. I doubt a lot of these 40 yr olds are truly virgins. I'm in my late 20's and I don't know how much longer I can last, but I'm trying to hold on at this point. I can only imagine that a guy would have had serious issues by 40 without having some intimacy. This doesn't include that small portion of the population who has some psychiatric or medical issue and they just have low libido's.
I figure desi families get THIS much. They might figure a girl in her late 20's or 30's is ok being a virgin, cuz it's expected that we're all holy Mary's, but desis tend to accept that desi men are generally a raunchy group.
Who do you classify as desi people ? People from IndoPak or all of Asia ?
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So they are getting the milk for free, haan! And why do you think they would go out and invest in a cow then? 
Please, I am not calling desi girls, a cow. Dont throw tomatoes at me.
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LOL , good catch. :k:
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My sis is scared to get married so please pray for her. She is absolutely gorgeous and very fair skinned. My cousin didn't get married who is also very fair skinned, she hates men since her dad was hot tempered that affected her mind in a negative way.
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My sis is scared to get married so please pray for her. She is absolutely gorgeous and very fair skinned. My cousin didn't get married who is also very fair skinned, she hates men since her dad was hot tempered that affected her mind in a negative way.
may be u can hook two of them together?? u know...cousin marriage is allowed in islam too..
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My sis is scared to get married so please pray for her. She is absolutely gorgeous and very fair skinned. My cousin didn't get married who is also very fair skinned, she hates men since her dad was hot tempered that affected her mind in a negative way.
random side note : why do ppl on this site always bring up how fair skinned people are? is she supposed to want to get married more because she's fair skinned? I don't get it.
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random side note : why do ppl on this site always bring up how fair skinned people are? is she supposed to want to get married more because she's fair skinned? I don't get it.
no no........this is to show that they are quite a maarketable commodity unlike the NC kaali kaloti girls......who will never find a rishta.......samajh aai??
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may be u can hook two of them together?? u know...cousin marriage is allowed in islam too..
Ewwww my sis is straight!
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Ewwww my sis is straight!
so if she don't want marrig with a bhoy.......wat she want to do??
