Many young gals find the older man to be sexy…ala Sean Connery yeah? But in most cases, the 40 yr old men are suffering from a mid-lie crisis and looking for arm-candy. The gals are happy to have that sexy-mature-guy-father-figure and both are happy. For a little while. I mean, most gals at age 20 might not mind being arm-candy to a sexy older guy but once they begin to mature themselves, it loses its thrill. And the guy, when its arm-candy that he wants, well he begins to lose interest when the looks begin to fade.
Gals, always be very leery of 40-plus men who drive red cars (esp convertibles), get their nails done in a salon and have suspiciously-too-dark hair.