Ok Ladies Deela is back:
Since the Prophet (pbuh) was infallible, he did only right and good, therefore it is 'recommended' to look at him. And hence whatever is part of his sunnah **is Allowable. **The Prophet (pbuh) came to teach how to live. I did not use the sunnah of nabi-pak and/or his sahabies to say I am recommended/obligated to follow him. I stated that merely as counter-argument to the lady who tried fatwaing me from the koran that men should not be polygamous. - Word of advice, before people extract random ayats or hadiths they should ensure they also have correct comprehension- else they mislead themselves and others.
Before you start saying that the Prophet SAW's polygamy was recommended: Keep in mind that he was not a man who was consumed by lusts. Sex was not the basis for his multiple marriages. So if you truly are going to follow the lifestyle of the Prophet SAWS.................then you should also try to make sure that the PREDOMINANT BASIS for your multiple marriages is NOT sex. If you can't follow this "sunnah" "recommendation"...............................then go ahead and follow the "sunnah" of some Sahaba whose lifestyle better fits your own motives. Also keep in mind that the Prophet SAWS was married to Hazrat Khadija who was 15 YEARS OLDER than him for many years. But yet during the years of their marriage................even though she was aging faster.............he remained faithful to her. He didn't do taank jhaank at the younger looking women. He wasn't consumed by sexual thoughts to the point that he ALWAYS complained and talked about them. He remained FAITHFUL and MONOGAMOUS toward Khadija. So why don't you ALSO try to follow the Prophet's "sunnah" of decency. Later on...........in order to protect women from the dangerous consequences of becoming a widow..........and to establish a unified community..................he married multiple times. And not all of those wives were beautiful. Some were probably older than him and already had kids. His main reason for marrying them was NOT beauty.........or sex........or to get a "TASTE"** of what another woman feels like. You are ONLY concentrating on the fact that the Prophet SAWS married multiple times*...............................why don't you* ALSO try to follow the "sunnah" of his decent and respectable mentality? Sex was not the guiding force for his multiple marriages. ** If the Prophet SAWS could remain monogamous to Khadija..............then I think that if he was never assigned by Allah with the mission to preach Islam and to unify the Muslim world and to protect the widowed women..........................he would perhaps continue to remain monogamous to Khadija because from the get-go........he was never a man ruled by lusts..**
Oh and I read through what you call your "explanation." And in that post you never mentioned how you would deal with the emotional insecurities your multiple wives and children resulting from those marriages would face. You simply said that a desperate "pretty widow" wouldn't mind being treated like a lesser wife provided that you offer her financial security. Well.........women require more than just financial security, which can't compensate for frequent emotional insecurity.
It's possible that just by getting the "experience" of one wife.......will be enough.........for you to realize that it's difficulty to start multiple relationships. When one does not have the experience of even a single marriage......let alone relationship.......it's foolish to assume that the financial requirements of 4 wives and their emotional issues would be a "piece-of-cake" to handles. Sorry..........but according to the views of many on here..........that's not mature let alone intelligent thinking.
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