I’m 31 and unmarried. I need to hear some positive stories about girls that found someone at this age!
Deep down I feel that I’m not married because the right person for me has not come forward, I have always done istikhara for every rishta that has come, so I don’t regret saying no to anyone or anyone saying no to me.
I look about 25. I have someone who keeps asking for my rishta but he’s 22. He’s very religious and says that age or looks have nothing to do with a long term marriage. They’ve been asking for 3 years. I do like him and we get on so well.
**Zara sweets theres many girls in ur shoes- your approach is correct- its just that you havnt found your ideal- inshallah when the times right- it will be worth the wait- but think carefully about the age difference- whilst I also believe that age is nothing but a number but mentally - guys tend to mature later then girls- you wouldnt want a pansy as ur hubby or someone whose really immature and sees life through different colours?..My sister was 40 when she got married- alhamdolilah she is soo happy with her hubby mashallah - hes 6 years younger than her but alhamdolilah she says it was destiny that brought them together… Your not alone hunny:k:
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Not many men out there who would interested getting married to someone who is 30 +. It may be sad, pathetic, idiotic or whatever - sadly it is how it is.
If that guy likes you and you have the same feeling, then why don't you just go ahead?
You are already 31 and the clock is ticking fast. I assume you are done with education? Now, just concentrate on getting married......find someone before you are 32 or 33.
I'm 31 and unmarried. I need to hear some positive stories about girls that found someone at this age!
Deep down I feel that I'm not married because the right person for me has not come forward, I have always done istikhara for every rishta that has come, so I don't regret saying no to anyone or anyone saying no to me.
I look about 25. I have someone who keeps asking for my rishta but he's 22. He's very religious and says that age or looks have nothing to do with a long term marriage. They've been asking for 3 years. I do like him and we get on so well.
So uplifting stories about 30's brides please!
From UK ..hmm . . . well go for the guy . whats stopping you ...The Prophet SAW got married at 25 to Hazrat Khateeja who was 40 ...:D
I'm 31 and unmarried. I need to hear some positive stories about girls that found someone at this age!
Deep down I feel that I'm not married because the right person for me has not come forward, I have always done istikhara for every rishta that has come, so I don't regret saying no to anyone or anyone saying no to me.
I look about 25. I have someone who keeps asking for my rishta but he's 22. He's very religious and says that age or looks have nothing to do with a long term marriage. They've been asking for 3 years. I do like him and we get on so well.
So uplifting stories about 30's brides please!
I have a friend in Pak who got married to her cousin in her early twenties. That marriage was a very very very very short-lived one as there were some petty problems between the two families.
My friend is educated and attractive but for MANY years......she had problems getting remarried. Some of this had to do with the malicious wagging tongues of the muhally walay. Whenever a rishta would come.....the neighbors would tell the prospective families that my friend is divorced and this would deter things from going forward.
Recently my friend got married to a guy....whom I hear.......is about 3-4 years YOUNGER than her (She'll be turning 30 this year)...............and MashaAllah she's very happy. Her parents are very happy, they've had to endure a very difficult time since their daughter's divorce. My friend's in-laws are very loving and accepting of her. I came back from Pak yesterday and I'm glad that she's happy and settled. In the grand scheme of things...........the ages of the two individuals don't matter much if they're content. :)
I hope that you find this true story to be an uplifting one, Zara. You will find guys who are the same age as you and older.................but they could be VERY IMMATURE or incompatible. You might have friends/cousins that are several years younger than you that you get along with BETTER THAN people that are closer to your age. In the end, it's about compatibility. Perhaps this guy will prove to be a better husband than one who is closer to your age or older. And it seems to me that you really like/care for this guy.................because if you didn't.....................you wouldn't have bothered to create a thread about the issue. The reason you're seeking "uplifting" stories is because you want hope that things will work out. And to me this shows that you're interested in the possibility of you n him.
My advice is that you do Istikhara.......and if this guy has consistently shown that he's mature........if he's given you no reason to be wary of him......then go for it. Tell him to bring his parents over to your home. If he's serious about you......he'll do this. If you KNOW that you both get along well......then don't let age get in the way.
I married very young and it was a decade-long disaster from which I thankfully extracted myself before having children. My plan was to enjoy my life, perhaps join the peace corps or the navy but alas, my knight in shining armor swept me away. I was older than 31 at the time and now I blissfully have my happy little family. While I sometimes wish I were a younger mom and wife, it is what it is and its a wonderful life for sure. My happiest time of life began after age 31.
**my cousin got married when she was 37 and her husband was 44. now, she is 65 and he recently died at 71. she had a sad story coz her ONLY son passed away tragically at a young age of 18. she is heart broken but people in her maayeka and sasural are awesome and they've given her the support she needed. alHamdolillah.
so life doesn't end at 30 or hopes don't fade away or good rishtas stop coming. there are definitly a few good men out there. u just have to find them out :) May Allah bless u...aameen :)**
Don't worry hun! You'll find that special someone....he's out there somewhere, waiting to enter your life....but he's waiting for the perfect moment ;)
And recently a family friend got married @ 33. And she's happy she waited that long...cause she ended up finding the perfect guy...and she would have regreted it if she just settled! So yea don't worry Allah (swt) knows best...and Inshallah everything will work out!!
Not many men out there who would interested getting married to someone who is 30 +. It may be sad, pathetic, idiotic or whatever - sadly it is how it is.
If that guy likes you and you have the same feeling, then why don't you just go ahead?
You are already 31 and the clock is ticking fast. I assume you are done with education? Now, just concentrate on getting married......find someone before you are 32 or 33.
False.
Educated men are usually looking for someone who can get along with them on every level. Usually they prefer women who are closer to their age range.
there are plenty of single men in your age range, especially these days. you say your looks aren't an issue. i wouldnt worry if i were you.
Eggjackly.
You're 31, not 41...chill karo and pray for the best.
Oh and whats wrong with finding yourself a guy? You dont have to necessarily wait around for someone to find you...you find HIM!
