Re: 30 year old Pakistani women
The trend to marry younger women, and marry early is pretty prevelant in Arab cultures.
And plus, since Pakistanis do not mix their social circles much with other muslims, the only place you WOULD meet other muslim men is if you happen to go to college with them (you will never have an opportunity to meet so many men as in college, but those who prefer to work instead of flirt in college or who are neck deep in competition lose out on this sometimes), OR happening to meet them at work (great, because most muslims are in blue collar jobs, not white collar, whereas most muslim women if they do work are in white collar jobs because what family will let their daughter make subway sandwiches for work, or work at a gas station?), OR in the mosque (fat chance - gender segregation, you usually can’t even see the opposite sex), OR a dating website.
This is why the muslim dating websites have become popular. It’s either your mom/dad find someone for you, you HAPPEN to find someone in your circle of friends in which case working on social contacts is a MUST, OR you meet someone online.
You CAN get involved with muslim/desi organizations, but that depends on where you live and if there are any organizations. Even in populated areas where there are lots of muslims, muslim orgs are often dominated by really overtly religious people. I found it was hard to become part of these groups - you go to their meetings, and then they get on your case about hijab etc.