Re: 30 year old Pakistani women
How many husbands have a daily demand for biryani and kababs in the first place? There’s more to life than cooking, sure. But there is sawab in making a meal, even a simple one, that brings your family together. The most fundamental institution of society is marriage, family, the home. When that is in shambles, it will result in many societal problems. The success of a country is not only rooted in the education of women and their joining the work force. It’s also dependent upon the maintenance of healthy relationships within our homes and that requires mutual compromise and sacrifice. If your career comes at the expense of your marriage and family, you won’t feel a deep sense of fulfillment even if you’re very successful at work. Even for men, their assigned obligation as providers is connected to the family first, not the whole of society. It starts from the home.
Yes women should be educated so they can rely upon themselves in situations like divorce. And in some severe cases, divorce is best. But generally, divorces are damaging to to children and society. Marriages in our times lack ahtram, regard, patience. Everyone wants to be mughal prince or princess…it’s my way or the highway, I’m never going to this so you better forget about it. Lack of flexibility.
We wanna have precautions set in place for AFTER the problem happens. Like treating the effects of a disease but not exercising precautions to prevent the disease in the first place. Not knowing how to yield and compromise to make a marriage work, but being satisfied in the belief that my education will come to my rescue after the divorce. Not giving your home the best but wanting to conquer society’s problems with professional contributions. Not fulfilling a religion obligation or farz to the best of your ability, but being more worried about a religious right which is lesser in value. Maybe the root of society’s woes is not the marriage or home, but rather the individual and his/her rigidity, obstinance, and not having priorities in the right order.