30 year old Pakistani women

[Sehrysh]

Re: 30 year old Pakistani women

So first off, each of our experiences is different. I can’t comment on your own experiences navigating the rishta quagmire, but I can maybe show you the other side so you can appreciate that the sweeping generalizations you’ve made are not universally applicable.

Does what you describe happen? Absolutely it does, but it happens sometimes, not ALWAYS.

@PyariCgudia

Our women themselves do not value education and independence in the women that marry into their household, they just want someone to take care of the ladlaa boys. Cook and clean for them, like maids.

That’s why we see this habit of one standard for one’s own daughters, and another standard for other girls. We will make our own daughters into professionals and find the best of best of men for them that will work AROUND THEIR schedules and career plannings, but then when it comes to the bahu, no, her education and career is irrelevant, she needs to make the food every day and that’s it.

PCG, I have examples within my life and my larger social circles to refute each one of your generalizations. Sadly, I also have examples to reinforce each one of your generalizations. Like I’ve said before - one rule does not apply to everyone.

We can go back and forth on this forever, but it doesn’t prove anything or change anything. Instead of focusing on the people who live down to the stereotype, why not focus on the people who challenge it? And there are so very many.