Re: 30 year old Pakistani women
I don’t think it’s the guys necessarily, it’s their families. They will set a requirement - she has to be within X-Z age range. Then from that pool, they’ll find girls they like and families they like, and then show the pictures to their sons. That’s how it usually works, otherwise, for a guy himself to say he wants someone 10 yrs younger of his own volition doesn’t happen on it’s own, if it does, it’s usually a discriminatory factor ingrained in him by his family. It’s funny that people think this is my usual man-hating criticisms on our society, but this is not a problem from men, it’s a problem from women.
Our women themselves do not value education and independence in the women that marry into their household, they just want someone to take care of the ladlaa boys. Cook and clean for them, like maids.
That’s why we see this habit of one standard for one’s own daughters, and another standard for other girls. We will make our own daughters into professionals and find the best of best of men for them that will work AROUND THEIR schedules and career plannings, but then when it comes to the bahu, no, her education and career is irrelevant, she needs to make the food every day and that’s it.
There’s more to life than cooking biryani and kababs for mughal kings every night, I hope so, otherwise our society is seriously doomed. Keeping 50% of our people behind doors and not letting them think and engage in society is precisely why we have the problems we have in Pakistan. The men run that society, not women, and look at what Pakistan has become. A total wastebasket of terrorism, fighting, guns, and violence. It’s like the laadla boys are being allowed to live their hollywood fantasies while sensible folks are told to make rotis.
Right, if only enlightened, understanding women would come and show us men how things are done. Pretty sure the West was spanking Pakistan/India long before feminism but what do I know, I’m just a paratha loving man.